I have two DD, DD1 is nearly 10 and DD2 is just about 3.5. DD1 was a delightful toddler and young child, easy going, risk averse, just generally quite an easy child and lovely to be around.
DD3 is the complete opposite. I feel awful saying this but I'm really not enjoying parenting her at the moment. She's always been difficult but since turning 2, or even earlier than that really, she has had frequent meltdowns, gets very angry very quickly.
Sometimes she'll wake in the night and just scream for half an hour. If she's told no she'll scream and hit for half an hour. She's rude, calls me stupid all the time.
She goes to a lovely nursery and enjoys it there but drop offs are a nightmare with kicking and screaming. She has had periods of time where she's gone in okay, though it had to be certain people she'd go to, but recently every drop off is hell.
She is so defiant, deliberately doing whatever it is I've asked her not to do. She couldn't care less about consequences or rewards.
I feel like I've tried so much to help her but she is just so angry and hard to please all the time!
She is fiercely independent and does a lot for herself. She has dressed herself for over a year, can get her own breakfast etc. I'm sure a lot of her independence is down to having a much older sister, and she's probably more capable than DD1 in a lot of ways!
She can be very kind and caring in a grown up way, but she's also very controlling.
Is this all normal 3yo behaviour? Will she mellow? Will it get better? I'm at my wits end most days, as every aspect of every day is difficult. She's the opposite of easy going.
Sorry for the badly written post, I'm just brain dumping.