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7 month old keeps waking to check if I’m there?

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Headlessbond · 11/06/2025 22:43

My 7 month old has started waking up 2/3 times a night to check if I am there.
She is still in the next to me crib as we are in the process of building her cot.
She wakes up and looks towards my bed.
if she doesn’t see me, she cries so much like she is scared. It breaks my heart (I am downstairs and can see in the monitor). I therefore have to go comfort her and she falls back to sleep.

She then wakes 2/3 further times a night to see if I’m there. Sometimes I can shush her back but sometimes she won’t sleep unless I cuddle her and the transfer her back.
she doesn’t need a feed as she doesn’t cry for one, she stopped crying as soon as I cuddle her.

Not sure what to do? Is this a regression?
She used to be a good sleeper. Pick her head up, see if I’m there and then go back to sleep.

I wanted to move her in her own room but not sure how that would work if she’s checked to see if I’m there and getting scared when I am not?
I am not sure sleeping training will work as she can self sooth herself to sleep when I put her down for bedtime.

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HundredPercentUnsure · 11/06/2025 22:50

Normal. Have a read up on separation anxiety, which kicks in around 7-10m ish or sometime in that window.

It'll pass. Keep cuddling that baby. Please don't sleep train.

SilkCottonTree · 11/06/2025 22:57

That actually sounds adorable :) It won’t be forever so just embrace it. Mine didn’t move into their own rooms until they were around 2 and they are now perfectly well adjusted kids. Don’t bother with sleep training.

Headlessbond · 11/06/2025 23:31

Thank you. I thought I’ve created some bad habit for my baby?
would you not move her to her own room either?

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HundredPercentUnsure · 12/06/2025 00:01

Unless you need the space, what's the rush? Do you like having baby in your room? If so then keep her in with you. You'll miss her otherwise!

My eldest was 18m when they moved into the cot in their own room, my youngest was 12m. I missed them! They decided themselves they wanted to share a room together at 4 and just 2 🥰

ToasterFuckUP · 12/06/2025 00:04

This is completely normal. Babies feel safe when they are next to us.

Headlessbond · 13/06/2025 09:16

Well last night was really bad. She wouldn’t sleep, unless she was on me. She sleeps on her front so can’t co sleep as she’d be laying flat down on my mattress. Everytime I transfer to cot, she’d wake up and go crazy. She was never like this before. Used to sleep really well, self soothe really well. Not sure what to do?! She sleeps well when I first put her down, can self soothe etc.

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Headlessbond · 13/06/2025 17:26

SilkCottonTree · 13/06/2025 12:54

Get one of these to keep her on her back and keep her in bed with you?

Aren’t the unsafe? She sleeps on her front even when I put her on her back and is starting to practise crawling in her sleep. I don’t think these will be safe for her.

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daff0di1 · 13/06/2025 21:19

Headlessbond · 13/06/2025 17:26

Aren’t the unsafe? She sleeps on her front even when I put her on her back and is starting to practise crawling in her sleep. I don’t think these will be safe for her.

Very unsafe OP don't get one of them. Have you put her in bed with you before? My son's 10 months and sleeps on his tummy but when I put him with me he stays on his back and I keep my arm round him, I wake as soon as he does so he can't get away from me

pandora206 · 13/06/2025 21:28

Developmentally, this is a positive sign as it demonstrates your baby is developing 'object permanence'. This means that she realises that when a person or object is out of sight they still exist. It's an important cognitive stage and a sign of attachment. It is also evidence that she is beginning to see herself as a separate being and not purely an extension of her mother.

This stage is usually accompanied by stronger signs of attachment (separation anxiety etc.) and an interest in games when people or objects disappear and reappear (such as peek-a-boo and dropping or posting objects).

It's such an interesting stage.

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