Large gap between children

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Has anyone got a large age gap between their first and second child? My DD is 10, she will be 11 in October. Me and my partner are thinking of possibly trying to conceive next year(my partner is not my Dad's dad)

What is everyone's experience with having a large age gap?

I have a 14 and 13 year old and have just had my 3rd baby nearly 6 weeks ago. My older children have been so helpful when I’ve needed them to hold the baby while I quickly use the loo or brush my hair etc. even getting me a drink and doing the little things. Although I do feel guilty for not being able to do the things I used to like watch a film or have a day out with them etc but I know I will be able to at some point once me and the baby are in more of a routine and they’re old enough to understand why I can’t right now.
its nice to see how much they love the new baby 💕

That's so nice to hear! How are you adjusting to it all? I'm worried I'm going to find it quite difficult to be going all the way back to the beginning again as I'm so used to how independent my daughter is

I was exactly the same. It felt so daunting and scary! I’ve had a few days where I’ve really struggled but I think it’s just newborn life because as you will know it isn’t easy! I’m still in the thick of it but I know that it will get easier and it will all be worth it. I didn’t want to regret not having another xxx

Your partner is not your Dad's Dad??? Flippin hope not.

Thank you! It's definitely helped hearing it from someone who has done it! I don't want to regret not having another child and now I've hit 30 my broodyness has gone through the roof 😂🤦🏻‍♀️! Congratulations on your third baby🖤

My sister is 11 younger than me, different dads I liked having a little sister and I don't remember being jealous, she was indulged though and was always "the baby" but that wasn't her fault that was the parents, anyway I think if you want another baby go for it.

That's great to hear! I think parents tend to always baby the youngest(I am the youngest). But me and my partner have both agreed if we do go for it that we will always try our best to include my daughter and even still have our own quality time together with her and the other can have the baby so she doesn't feel pushed out or anything and to hold each other accountable if one of us is unknowing doing so etc.

My DD has 2 siblings (same Dad, different Mum) who are 12/13 years older and it's been a really nice gap.
No competition, they've enjoyed the fun a little one brings but as they spent half their time with their Mum, they got a break too!
Make sure you don't become too baby centric but it's been good for us. DD now a young adult and has a lovely relationship especially with her older sister.

That's lovely! My DD goes to her dad's every other weekend but has 3 younger siblings there so she won't be getting a break as such 😂. She has been asking me for a sibling for a couple years now as she says she'd love to have a full time sibling as only sees her every other weekend. I'm glad to hear they have a lovely relationship!