Struggling with newborn stage

[Ros2023]

i have an almost 6 week old baby and I’m really struggling to enjoy this stage. I feel guilty even saying it. I seem to cry everyday and although I adore my baby I’m just finding it all so hard.
i have a supportive partner and lots of family that are amazing but I still feel stuck feeling like this and find myself dreading everyday knowing I have to do another day!
I know the newborn stage is survival mode and you have to just get through it but man it is HARD. Does anyone else feel this way?
debating whether to speak to a health visitor or ride these feelings out until things get easier?
what are your experiences?

Speak to a health visitor, it’s a daunting stage and the conversation will likely go one of two ways; either they will reassure you that this will pass or recommend you speak to a GP.

I didn’t speak to anyone with my first and looking back I quite clearly had PP depression, and wish I had just chatted with someone about it. Sending hugs and hope you start to feel better soon xx

It is a hard time (although I’d suggest you’re through the worst of it!) but I think you should speak to you HV or GP if crying every day.

I felt the same with my first child . I would have let anyone look after him. I now realise I suffered with post natal depression. I didn’t tell anyone as I felt ashamed . I feel I missed the first few months of my DS’s life as I was in a “fog” I still feel guilty over 40 years later . Please speak to someone and get some support . It’s a hard stage even when you feel well . Hope it passes soon.

Im my opinion some people thrive at the newborn stage and struggle with the toddler and some thrive with the toddler stage and struggle with the newborn. I thrived at the toddler stage loved it and felt most secure as a mother.

I was like you but it does get easier I promise and one day you'll look back and be like yes I survived and done a great job!!

Im currently pregnant with number 2 and fully aware of the trenches ill be in soon. But now having a four year old I know it doesn't last long and is all so so worth it.

Your already doing a great job and it's ok to cry because it is very hard be proud of yourself xxx

The newborn phase is very hard, and your hormones will still be all over the place at 6 weeks. Some people have lower needs babies and they may find it easier but personally I really struggled with my first as she was a high needs baby and I felt guilty about that. Speak to the health visitor, it can be good just to talk it through and they’ll keep an eye on you.

It's one of the hardest times of life, plus you're post partum so hormones are crazy and your body and mind are no longer your own. My friend had therapy fortnightly which she found helpful, went via her HV as she'd had a traumatic birth. In hindsight I should have some similar as I found it very hard.

It does pass though, and slowly found myself enjoying some, then more, then most! Which coincided with getting my brain back from the hormone let down and my body recovering from an EMCS.

Big hug, it's a hard time and it can feel very disappointing that it's not as imagined, and that you're somehow missing it when actually it's such a tiny bit of their life, getting through the newborn stage is an achievement x

Thanks everyone 💕 I’m going to speak to the health visitor and go from there. I had postnatal depression with my last baby and I’m trying to figure out if I’m going down that road again or just having a rough few weeks. This newborn stage this time around is bloody hard