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[Vivi92]

Hello,

I am a step parent to an 8 year. I don't appreciate the back talk every time I say something she answers me back her father is no help every time I bring it to him. He is more mad at me than at his kid. I guess she back talks to you so its okay for her to back talk to others (adults). What to do in a situation like that?

Poor kid
only 8 years old - how old was she when her parents separated? How often is she with you / her dad
Her dad should be doing the parenting regardless and you backing him up
he sounds immature and the child’s caught up in it
have some empathy for the child and her dad needs to set some better boundaries

You leave. And remember it isn't the dc's fault they have a shoddy df...

The 8yr old is not the problem.
Why would you be attracted to a man that can not effectively parent his own child?
Dump the loser and have a serious think about what you want in a partner ans relationship.

I wasn't expecting these answers but thank you for taking the time to answer thanks I appreciate it.

She was a baby when they seperated. 2 weeks out of the month so its shared custody. I have no idea how they are raising those kids. I don't know if its immaturity or something else because its not cool. I have never seen that his friends have kids and those kids have manners.

Manners are taught behaviours. It's not the 8yo fault but the caregivers.

True but I think the parents want to be the best but its lacking in how they're raising those kids. I blame the parents. 100%. I noticed I spoke my opinion on certain things they're supposed to know how to do at their age (but got answer like "they're babies") a 8 and 7 year olds are babies 😅. I brought a lot of change but my partner isn't helping at all he says it once but bro your their bio dad tell them teach them they didn't even know how to use the stove until I showed them.

I brought a lot of change but my partner isn't helping at all

Maybe it's pushback against change. How long have you been with DP?

I don't think it has to do with immaturity because he thinks having kids makes him automatically the best dad (like he knows it all) boundaries I don't think he knows what that means.

4 years. I have expressed how I felt when I noticed the girls were lacking certain things I had to step up. Because this is my home and there needs to be some rules.

So DP and kids moved in with you?

What certain things were the girls lacking?

Well, bin him off then.

If you have kids with him, he's showing you what kind of sad he is, and you already don't like it.

So why bother with him?