Bedtimes: How do big families do it?

[Bloome22]

i see it’s quite common in eg America to have very large families with children quite close in age and even with twins. How on earth do they manage bedtimes? It’s hard enough battling with one threenager - saying no to everything, tantrums, only wanting one parent to do certain things eg brush teeth. How on earth do they (or you) do it with 10 (or more/less)?!

They leave them to cry I suppose.

The kids learn from a early age, routine is the key

It's routine. That's how it works.

My friend has four under seven. They all share a room and she just puts them into their beds at 7pm and closes the door

Mum of 3 here - 4 and 3 year old share a room so I also take our 16 month old into there, read a book after bath, close the door and pop little one into own room and bed. Like everyone has said, routine routine routine 🥰

I have 5 and I brush thier teeth then they go to thier bedrooms and I do stories in turn then lights off. Tbf one is a teen so don't do her and one is a newborn

I did them in pairs whilst feeding the baby.

Thanks for the replies. We do have a routine but all of a sudden it’s just “NO!” To everything. What do people do in that situation? The routine just gets stretched and bedtime gets later after all the cajoling, whining, tantrums etc. Thanks!

If you had more than one the tantrums wouldn’t get the outcome the kid wants, and usually not get the momentum.

imagine you’re breastfeeding a new baby… how would you deal with the 3yo? then do that.

Chaos basically (4 under 7).

I used to get them all onto my bed after bath time, to do stories/feeding/cuddles. Then tried to pop them into their separate beds and 🤞🤞🤞