Baby prefers grandma over me

[piper321]

My baby is 17 weeks just now and this is likely to be my first and only child. My mum doesn't reside in the UK but is currently staying with us for 6 months so we can spend time together and also to help care for her grandson.

I know I am in an incredibly lucky situation with mum's help and support. She's taking a fair bit of cooking, cleaning and tidying around the house; and watch/play with baby. I am still on my maternity leave and her presence made my life so so easy. I am so very grateful for this.

However, I've noticed since mum's arrival baby seems to prefer her a lot more than me. He smiles a lot more at mum and seems to be more attracted to her face than mine - or his dad's. Of course I am so happy that he gets on with his grandma well and would love to continue for them to have this bond; however part of me is feeling quite sad and feels missing out! Does my baby just love others more than me?

Please talk some sense into me...

Lol no. All babies do that. You are his comfort person. He assumes you are always there. Grandma/dad/nanny are his playmates.

My son always loved his nanny so much, he would hyperventilate with excitement when she walked in the house. Unless he was teething, sick, hurt himself etc, and he always looked around to check I was there but would continue to play with his nanny 😂, it was v sweet. I was so happy it meant that when I left the house, he was happy. That's what matters.

Thanks that's what logic is telling me too but emotionally it's proven to be harder than I thought😄I shall take comfort in that I am his comfort person and he knows mummy will always be around so he's safe and happy

He doesn't comprehend that you are separate to him. You are a permanent fixture. And he does appreciate the change. Nothing can replace you, even if he ignores you at times.

My oldest is sitting his GCSEs right now. I can still remember a 9 month old child hearing the key in the door every evening, and him dropping everything, and speed crawling to the door shouting "Dadadadadadada".
It's me he comes to when he's had a bad day. It's me who gets a cuddle good night. Mummy is usually pretty special in a child's mind.

Thank you, that is indeed reassuring to know!