When did things become easier for you?

[AtWitsEnd21]

Just looking for peoples experiences on when they felt things became easier with children. I know a slew of people will probably come in with the dreaded ‘never’ but nonetheless.

I have two DS, 3.5 and 20m. Although it has become a little easier it can still be very challenging. Older DS is a very good child overall but doesn’t sleep very well so I am up every night with him. Younger DS was a very high needs baby (one year of almost constant crying) and although he has improved he’s still a handful. He is very prone to tantrums, dreadfully clumsy always falling and injuring himself and has an uncanny ability to find the dangerous object in any environment. I am in an almost constant state of hyper vigilance.

I know this is an ages and stages situation but just interested in hearing when people felt things got a bit easier.

I have a lovely teenager who is by far my easiest child

This is interesting. DC1 was such an easy baby. He is 5 now and seems smart, but not book smart, and he definitely doesn’t engage his brain and apply himself. Easy baby but I’m making him for the hard work now I have to help him learn to read and do maths etc.

DT who cried for a year non stop are only 3 now but I can see how vastly different they are from him in that respect; I don’t want to sound like one of those asshole parents so I won’t list what they can do…. But it seems to back up your GPs theory!

Our older DS is a smart little cookie but sometimes younger DS astounds us! Similarly I won’t list but he definitely a very intelligent child. The GP felt that part of the reason he cried so much was total frustration, his cognitive ability had surpassed his physical capacity. He definitely still has a low tolerance for frustration which can be very wearing! but he has improved with talking and is always asking us why so I feel that basic level of understanding has also made life a bit easier for him and us.

Was there an age you felt your DT mostly settled?