Clingy one year old

[jodesxx]

Anyone got any advice on how to deal with an incredibly clingy one year old. My son is nearly three and he was never like this. My daughter has just turned one and honestly it is a nightmare at the moment. I’m am breastfeeding but weaning off it now. She goes to nursery three days a week and is always fine when she is there. She wakes up a couple times a night still and is often up for day at 5.30. I can’t seem to ever leave her alone as she just cries. Tonight it was everyone. All she did was whinge whether she was held or put down. This has been going on for sometime but it is just relentless. She gets so stroppy if she doesn’t get her own way. She’ll moan to be put down but when she is put down she will cry and want to be picked up again. My husband works shifts so when I am on my own in the evenings it is just brutal. I’m finding it so hard at the moment.

Sending a virtual hug to you. Parenting two young kids is so hard, especially when you’re doing it solo. 1 year can be a peak separation anxiety stage. They’re old enough to understand object permanence and they’re also having huge developmental leaps, like learning to crawl /‘walk / talk. All of which can make them more attached to their caregiver for anchoring while they grow. Not helpful for you as it’s hard work when they’re clingy, but it is normal. Can she walk / move around yet? My 1 year old loves to crawl in the garden & he’s happy out there for ages just mooching around. Or do you think she’s after connection following nursery / doesn’t happen more frequently in nursery days?

it won’t last, even though it’s hard at the moment. Phases with kids never last, good or bad.

really hope you get some respite soon x

Thank you. I think if she slept overnight it wouldn’t be so hard but she doesn’t do that. She’s not yet walking so hoping it’ll be better when she is. Nearly there and she can crawl x

That’s good, sounds like you’re the thick of it all. If it makes you feel any better my 1 year old had a tummy bug last week and has been waking hourly every night screaming since last Thursday. We’ve been to a&e several times over the weekend and I’ve barely slept a wink. These times just come out of nowhere and you’re back deep in the trenches.

Other things that have made my youngest is usually when he’s knackered after nursery & just needs to go to bed, and also teething. It can last for weeks before the teeth actually come out, so maybe try calpol to see if it helps. It’s a guessing game with these babies & so so hard x

Is she waking for milk at night @jodesxx?