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Bored on maternity leave

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RIRO30 · 25/05/2025 17:16

Hello ladies
I’m on leave with my 16 week old twin babies!
They are doing so well and I’m managing great but IM BORED
I don’t have a massive friendship circle and my family are busy working
I went to first baby group hoping to meet some other mums but they all seemed very quiet and keen to not talk .. weird!
Their dad also works 60 hours a week so I’m just alone & bored 😂
Please give me some ideas on what I can do to keep busy & give me some motivation to go out and do things?? I’ve got into a great routine with naps and bottles I’m worried to leave the house and mess the routine??
I’m in London, should I take them to the aquarium or are they too young? 😂

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RIRO30 · 28/05/2025 16:22

ScaryM0nster · 27/05/2025 22:47

Start by actually stretching yourself.

You don’t make friends on a single meeting, it takes effrot.

You also don’t get much stimulation at home with a baby alone all day so start
working out how to go out.

Yes I’m happy and confident to leave the house I was asking for recommendations on things to do as I’m a first time mum so it’s all new to me, that’s how I’m working out how to get out so I know where to go!

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SummerInSun · 28/05/2025 16:25

It doesn’t all have to be baby stuff! Appreciate that getting around with a double buggy is not straightforward, but if you can make it to eg some of the galleries or museums and wander round pushing the buggy while the babies nap, that could be a nice thing to do for yourself. And it will be much harder once they are mobile! I also had my babies in London, admittedly not twins only one at a time, but there were always kind people who would help me lift the buggy up amd down the stairs at the tube stations.

thecomedyofterrors · 28/05/2025 18:28

Definitely go to baby groups and make an effort to talk to people. You’re unlikely to make a new best friend immediately, but after chatting through a few groups, you’ll meet your people. Maternity would be so boring solo without conversation. I found focused groups (like swimming or music) good for relationships with babies, but a standard church toddler group best for new mum friends.

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RIRO30 · 28/05/2025 21:15

SummerInSun · 28/05/2025 16:25

It doesn’t all have to be baby stuff! Appreciate that getting around with a double buggy is not straightforward, but if you can make it to eg some of the galleries or museums and wander round pushing the buggy while the babies nap, that could be a nice thing to do for yourself. And it will be much harder once they are mobile! I also had my babies in London, admittedly not twins only one at a time, but there were always kind people who would help me lift the buggy up amd down the stairs at the tube stations.

yes true!! I think I would prefer bus then tube? Can’t imagine someone wanting to help me on the stairs with a double buggy 😂

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RIRO30 · 28/05/2025 21:16

thecomedyofterrors · 28/05/2025 18:28

Definitely go to baby groups and make an effort to talk to people. You’re unlikely to make a new best friend immediately, but after chatting through a few groups, you’ll meet your people. Maternity would be so boring solo without conversation. I found focused groups (like swimming or music) good for relationships with babies, but a standard church toddler group best for new mum friends.

thank you. This is my goal now to attend more groups. I have joined a local twin group they have meet ups every two weeks and I found out about the Happity website where you can book groups. Thank you x

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Hazelmond · 28/05/2025 21:39

At this age baby doesn’t need the classes as much as you need support and community so don’t feel you have to sit singing hello to the sun, etc. Mum and baby yoga, singing circles, wine and wean, parent walk and talk meet ups are also great and, importantly, they are nurturing for you.

MarioLink · 28/05/2025 21:59

When mine were that age I took them to the aquatics shop at the garden centre to show them the fish! They loved it.

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