My LO is 3y4m. She’s always been very bright, very chatty at home and very independent. We tried toilet training quite early on once she turned 2 but decided she wasn’t ready as we didn’t have much success. We started again last October when she was 2y9m as she started a new preschool in September and wanted to wait until she’d settled - she picked it up well at home but struggled with her confidence at nursery and preschool. She did fantastically for a few months at home, over Christmas time we visited family and family she quite happily used the potty. However after her 3rd birthday she just started refusing it all together. Nothing at home has changed, so we are not sure what triggered this. We ended up taking a break for a couple of months because it really started to affect my relationship with her as I found it extremely frustrating. After the break I tried to reintroduce it in a fun way, and she was excited for pants again. Since then she’s generally been dry at nursery and preschool which is great and I’m really proud of her, but at home she refuses to try 99% of the time. I don’t want it to be a battlefield but I can’t understand how to get her to use it. We’ve tried sticker charts, treats, toilet seats, decorating the potty, everything. But she’s so strong willed I just feel like nothing will work.
I am finding it very hard and taking her out and about gives me anxiety. I of course don’t make a big deal of it at home, we just clean up the accident and remind her to try again next time. I almost don’t want any advice but a forum to share my feelings on.