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When to turn the car seat around

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Mopsy567 · 23/05/2025 21:53

I have a rear facing car seat for my 20 month old. I asked the sales assistant where I bought it when I should turn the car seat around to face the front and she said to keep it rear facing as long as possible, even up to three years for safety. Is this nonsense or sound advice? He is obviously growing taller and I am thinking I should have turned it to face forwards long ago.

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Butterflysunshine01 · 23/05/2025 21:54

Try to keep it rear facing for as long as possible, it’s far safer for the neck and head if you do have a crash, don’t worry about the legs looking slightly squashed as they have a lot more give!

Indianapolice · 23/05/2025 21:55

Leave them rear facing for as long as possible, basically until they run out of room.

My DD is 3 and still rear facing, super comfortable she sits with her legs crossed or resting on the seat.

MoodSwingSet · 23/05/2025 21:56

As long as possible.

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200skies · 23/05/2025 21:56

My 5-year-old is still rear-facing as it is much safer for them in the event of an accident (look up the stats). He has never once mentioned wanting to turn around. Unless there is some reason to forward face it, I'd definitely keep it rear-facing as long as possible.

Fantasticfrollics · 23/05/2025 21:58

Yes, rear face as long as possible. I know many people don't though. I saw this and think it explains the reason why quite well

When to turn the car seat around
Fantasticfrollics · 23/05/2025 21:59

I've posted a photo but it's under review

Fridgetapas · 23/05/2025 22:01

Until 4 minimum ideally. My 3 year old is still rear facing and quite comfortable.

ZebraPrintt · 23/05/2025 22:05

It's definitely safer, they're much more protected by the car seat rear facing

skkyelark · 23/05/2025 22:08

What seat do you have? There will be height and weight limits for it, and once he reaches those you'll need to turn it around (often around age 4 for an average-sized child). But yes, the safest option is to keep him rear-facing for as long as possible. Most serious crashes throw the passengers forward – into the cradle of a rear-facing car seat, so his head and neck are protected.

johnd2 · 24/05/2025 14:10

Even for adults rear facing is safer, however convention and preference states that adults face the same way as travel. Not to mention it's safer for everyone if the driver can see where they are going!

WokeMarxistPope · 24/05/2025 14:25

Sound advice. My kids were rear facing until 6 and 7 (96th centile)

BertieBotts · 24/05/2025 14:26

It's sound advice. Keep it facing backwards as long as it's practical and working for you and your child. If it starts to become a real problem you can turn forward at a very minimum of 15 months, but it's also possible to keep them backward facing until they go into the next stage which is high back booster. That is what they do in Sweden and they have excellent stats for child road passenger safety.

The longer you keep them RF for the better. If you were to be in a crash, the shell of the seat keeps their head, neck and spine all supported and lined up which is excellent at preventing serious injury. In a forward facing seat, the 5-point harness restrains their body but their head will be flung forward and the only thing stopping it is their neck and spinal cord, which can in rare cases cause catastrophic injury - the risk of this is higher the younger the child is, which is why it's illegal to FF in a modern car seat before 15 months. The other problem in a FF seat is that in certain scenarios, the child may hit their head on the seat in front, which is very unlikely in a RF seat because the seat acts as a barrier.

The vast majority of car seats on the market in the UK have the RF and FF limit the same - usually 105cm and about 18kg (17-20kg depending on the exact seat). It used to be you'd have a lower limit for RF (about 13kg ~2.5 years) but that is not typical any more.

Because we are used to FF in the UK sometimes people worry about things like legroom for the child or them being uncomfortable or not liking it, but IME if they have never been forward facing, they don't know any different and they will tell you if they are uncomfy (we found it usually helped to take off their shoes). In fact when you have children who are used to FF they tend to see RF as a novelty and "more fun" so I do think in most cases it's adult perception that the child doesn't like it or the child is seeing FF as the novelty because they are used to RF, and the adult takes this as meaning that the child likes FF objectively better.

The older they get the more the trade off balances so by three or so, I don't think it's a huge deal to turn them FF because you are sick of muddy feet for example. But for a younger child I'd want to keep them RF unless they are extremely travel sick or you need that seat for a younger sibling and can't fit a second RF seat in the car or can't afford one. And if it's working for everyone then you may as well continue as long as possible.

There are compact RF seats, RF seats with leg room, and affordable RF seats - but if you're trying to accommodate e.g. multiple children in a tiny car and both parents are 6ft tall and you barely have any budget and you need to buy the seat tomorrow - you're not likely to tick all those boxes at once. I don't think it makes sense to berate people for choosing to FF because everyone has to weigh up the decision for themselves. But yes, it does make a difference.

BuffaloCauliflower · 24/05/2025 14:28

Another saying as long as you can, and consider getting an extended rear facing seat if the one you have doesn’t rear face for long. My car seats are rear facing to 36kg and my 4.5 year old still rear faces and will till he outgrows the seat. It’s really so so much safer. Hopefully the law catches up with the data soon.

BertieBotts · 24/05/2025 14:28

As he grows one thing which you should do is move the headrest of the seat up, which should move the straps with it, and check the instruction manual to see if any inserts need to come out. Hopefully the sales assistant showed you this when you bought it, but sometimes people don't realise their seat can be adjusted like this Smile

wellthatwaseasy · 24/05/2025 14:30

@BertieBotts MN should pay you, honestly.

You’re one of the very few posters who gives honest advice in a way that neither sneers at those who make different choices nor patronises them.

Superscientist · 24/05/2025 18:32

For as long as is feasible.
My daughter is 5 in August and still rear facing in my car seat. In my partner's seat it became impractical for short journeys to have her rear facing so we made the decision to turn her in his seat but to only use it when necessary. It was used for nursery pick ups a couple of times a week on journeys less than 10 minutes. We either used my car or swapped car seats if using longer journeys so that 95% of the time she was rear facing.

I'm due my second in September when she will be 5 and after this she will switch to using my partners seat full time until she outgrows it around 5.5-6 then we will get a high back booster

lwal · 24/05/2025 19:55

As long as possible
my 3 and a half year old is still rear facing, comfortable and doesn’t know any different

NatalieH2220 · 24/05/2025 20:23

As long as you can as it's so much safer. Some seats only go to 18kg rear facing but there are plenty of others than go higher. My 4.5yo is still rear facing.

A lot of people don't bother but I remember the force on my neck when someone went into the back of me. It's not a risk I'm willing to take.

DappledOliveGroves · 24/05/2025 20:25

My three and a half year old is rear facing and I plan to keep her that way until age 6 or so. Far safer.

MarioLink · 24/05/2025 20:27

As long as possible is good advice; it's safer in a crash and small children are particularly vulnerable to neck injuries in car crashes due to their weaker necks a heads that are bigger compared to their bodies than adult heads are. Four is a good age to aim for but you can get bigger rear-facing seats that go up to aged 7. You've already passed the legal minimum which is 15 months but even just getting to 2 years is far better. As you have a seat that rear-faces I'd just keep it that way round till it's outgrown.

LongLiveTheLego · 24/05/2025 21:44

Minimum age 4 years , preferably age 6/7 years.

mindutopia · 24/05/2025 22:01

It obviously depends on the weight it’s certified to stay rear facing, but both mine were rear facing til 4.5 and turned just before they started reception.

Runnersandtoms · 24/05/2025 22:14

Mine RF a lot longer than anyone we knew at the time, and as above never once complained as they didn't know any different. They had enough space and could see out of the rear and side windows. It was only other adults that expressed surprise or suggested they must be unhappy/uncomfortable.

I personally always travel RF on trains, as it's just safer all round to be flung into a seat than out of one!

Stay RF as long as you can. Broken legs are much easier to fix than broken spines.

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