Night weaning a boob obsessed toddler?

[newmummypm]

Does anyone have any tips on how to nightwean a toddler that will not accept any other form of comfort other than nursing? Or stories of how they’ve managed to night wean without causing a lot of upset?

My 20 month old doesn’t really nurse during the day any more but I still feed him to sleep at night (at bedtime and any wakes). I have tried all sorts but if I try to cuddle, rock, sing, pat or shush him he will get more and more worked up until he is inconsolable. I’m currently trying to habit stack and have introduced a cuddly toy but it doesn’t seem to be helping. I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and would really like to phase out feeding to sleep.

any tips or other people’s experiences would be much appreciated!

Do you have a partner/DH? You need to get them to do the overnight settling. We're doing it now! I've heard it can be a few tough nights but my 18mo went from 4 or 5 wake ups always settled by me, then her dad did all the settling, tough at first lots of wake ups and cuddles, then the next night she only woke once. Tonight is night 3....watch this space!

I did this with my ds at around that age; he was waking up twice a night and then up for the day around 5am. I was so tired, I couldn’t handle it any more, so from one day to the next, I offered him a bottle of water instead. I picked him up as usual at whatever godforsaken time it was, and cuddled and rocked him but offered him the water instead of nursing him. He was apoplectic 😂 I just carried walking around with him, cuddling/rocking him till he fell asleep; it took about an hour and a half. Two nights of that and that was it, he didn’t bother any more, slept through from then on. Blessed relief!

Yeah just dh for a few nights is the answer. Just remember on the rough nights it will get easier

I remember this! DS2 is 12 now.
I just kept repeating that my milk was 'all gone'. Like a stuck record. He was not pleased but accepted it after a few horrible nights. Good luck OP!

You need to just grit your teeth and get through it. It will be horrible for a few nights. If possible get your partner to do it. It's the ideal time of he isn't working on Monday.

Told toddler no more milk at night as mummy is getting too tired.
Dad settled toddler for 3 nights ( slept in bed with toddler )
Went back to sleeping with toddler after night 3.

First night was pretty rough listening to the crying and screaming from a different room. Nights 2, 3 much better.

Just don't give in. Say no more milk at night and stick to it.

I agree with PPs, the only way we were able to night wean my boob obsessed toddler was for DH to take over the nights. She was quite upset for a couple of nights but once she realised it was always going to be daddy she started sleeping through.