I don’t like people taking or having pictures of my children anyone else?

[justanotherMumof2]

Can’t explain why but I really dislike others having photos of my children.

I don’t post on any social media platforms and rarely send a photo that doesn’t disappear.

This included grandparents ( both sets)

I think you are very OTT to not like the grandparents having pictures of your children.

Having rules about social media is quite different.

Yeah the grandparents thing is a bit nuts

I get the social media bit but why can’t can’t family have pictures ?

It depends. Are they grandparents who agree with your position on social media? Or are they putting photos on Instagram or Facebook?

I don’t mind GPs and aunties and uncles having photos.

i think you are being weird about your family unless their are other issues.

I guess it depends if the grandparents would then post the pics on social media or share them with their friends

Stopping grandparents having pictures of their grandkids is borderline psychotic. Unless there’s some massive drip feed about them being abusive incoming, then it’s flat out cruel and I’m willing to bet you block their relationship with them in other ways too. Children benefit from having a wider, involved loving family.

The SM thing yes your choice but not allowing close family to have photos is just downright weird.

You are aware that you don't own your children and that they do have relationships with other people?

I agree with everyone else.
Not sharing pictures with DGPs and other close family is weird in a normal family.

The SM thing is your choice.

I presume you are going to come back with a massive drip feed now though.

I just can’t see how granny having a picture of them in the house so her best friend Mary can see if she pops over is any worse than taking them out somewhere and strangers seeing them in the street. I presume you don’t keep your kids in the house 247.

Hopefully you send them photos in other ways so they can keep them and show their friends and such as otherwise that’s quite unusually unfortunate.

obviously many people have photos of your kids as they are out in the world. What about things like friends birthday parties or class trips?

Nope

Why are you thinking like this?

Completely over the top not to give the grandparents ( and family) photos of the children, it makes you seem really neurotic !

It's very unusual. Do you have any other worries, are you prone to anxiety generally?

Honestly, if I was a grandparent or aunt or uncle and you didn't allow close family to have photos I'd be very concerned about your mental health. That's not a normal amount of anxiety. Can you express exactly why it bothers you or what you think will happen.

OP I understand your feeling to some degree, I think before sending GP specific pics of my DC, as they forward them on to every friend and extended family member. E.g I would not share a photo of DC in the bath . Normal clothed photos I do send.

I have loads of photos of my nieces and nephews, both neither sets of parents post on SM, so I wouldn’t dream of putting photos on there

Grandparents send the photos to people neither me or DH know and even handed printed ones out at their church!

I’m not comfortable with this so limit what I send them, and gift framed prints instead.
other set of grandparents do not respect the no social media rule and have open accounts-
they also over share on social media and tell the world ( well at least their 6000+ friends) all my children’s information.

1. i don’t want strangers having pictures of my children
2. it’s not safe
3. it’s their right to have privacy u til they are old enough to decide.

@Womblingmerrilyactually I do own my children and it’s my duty to keep them and their information safe until they are old enough to do so.

both sets of grandparents visit at least 3 x a week. Have a good relationship with the children and the only rules we have are the no social media- sharing images printed or digitally with anyone and no pushing their faith on them.

Really don’t understand why they feel the need to overshare with the world.

i didn’t say I didn’t give them any I said I didn’t like it.
good job my mental health is well or you wouldn’t have helped with your unkind words.

I just don’t understand why or when children became public property and have no right to privacy.

They respect the no social media rule if they know them and honestly most people have common curtesy and don’t post other peoples children without consent so they cover them or crop them from photos.

a lot of parties we have recently attended have signs up saying please think before you post online ( some children in the class are foster children).

Bit of an over reaction, sharing photos of your children with their grandparents / family is not making your children public property

This I have no issue with, it’s the daily can you send me a picture or constantly snapping in their faces when they visit to then send to strangers that bothers me and makes me reluctant to send any or want them to have any it makes me feel uncomfortable. My grandparents were never in my face with a camera.

god forbid I’m busy and don’t reply straight away I get question marks .

You haven’t read what they do with the photos.

So the grandparents are constantly sending the photos to complete strangers or they have occasionally sent a pic to one of their close friends ?