15m old prefers granny (mil)

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This might sound absolutely ridiculous but posting in case someone else has been through this!

My LO was a super clingy baby whilst I was on mat leave, constantly attached to me. When I went back to work and he started nursery / grandparents - he has become obsessed with his granny (my mil).

Ofc I love their bond and how happy she makes him but I can't help but feel sad and miss being his favourite. I'll be at work all day; go to pick him up and he won't be bothered to see me at all. Will always run to her if we're both there and get upset if I take him out of her arms.

Might sound so stupid but I just feel so sad and crap about it and probably jealous!
Just hoping what I'm feeling is normal 😭

Totally normal. It’s part of the parenting job description - learning to let go of them as you watch them expanding their world. He’ll always have a special spot for you because you’re his mum, even if it doesn’t feel like it at times. And a day is probably a huge stretch of time to a little one - of course he’s going to get used to what he’s known for the day and take a bit of time to get to know you and warm up to you again. It’ll be okay :)

As above. You probably have to do a lot of day to day tasks in addition to work and parenting.MIL probably has more time devoted to your son when she is with him. It's hard for you, but it'll help him grow and develop well if he has secure relationships.

Of course he will love you, but it may not always be obvious.

Enjoy that he is so loved and special to you that he can form good relationships

You do more than you know