Sorry to ask again. Can someone please help me and talk to me for a minute

[NotABanana]

Had a shite day yesterday and already the same again today.

All the kids are fighting with each other.

DS1 is being very rude to me and DD is crying like a baby.

I have had enough.

for you. I have days like that frequently. Can you separate the Dcs at all? how old are they? maybe send one up to get dressed

I had a day like that yesterday to so have my utmost sympathy, I was longing for bedtime bud dreading actually trying to get them to bed.
How old are you kids?

I had a day like that yesterday to so have my utmost sympathy, I was longing for bedtime bud dreading actually trying to get them to bed.
How old are you kids?

I wondered where you had got to yesterday.

Are the big ones atschool soon? (Frgot how old they are, sorry)

Take 5 mins to breathe, then start getting them ready. Don't look too far ahead, just focus on getting this bit done.

Back in a bit, dd2 is turfing mef the comp....

do you go to any parent and baby groups, I think it really helps to see other peoples babies crying too, and its a nice distraction and good to chat to people.

Hey there NAB. What do you want to talk about?

Are your kids at school, or are they pre-schoolers?

7 and 2 months
2 and 11 months both boys

4 and 9 months is my daughter

the oldest boy is back chatting and repeating everything I saw. I have just told them to stand by the door and wait for me. ds2 said yes your hughness and dd is now crying

i have had enough

i can't do this anymore and i am not sure i want too

i don't go to any groups

i have 1 friend

i used to be such a nice person, funny, lovely company, now i am just a tired, fat, moaning person who i crap at this and i can't cope or manage them at all

ds1 threw trains in a temper and then smashed down dd's new bottle for school

ds1 has just told me to get off the computer and is saying all the things he is going to do

he is clearly trying to get a reaction and wind me up

off to walk to school now will try not to lose them on the way

Shit poor you. I have days like this frequently but only have 2 dcs and do have quite a few friends so am lucky with the support. If you really feel like you can't cope I think you should see gp or hv - I'm seriously considering going to see gp soon because I keep spontaneously bursting into tears and shouting at my children at the slightest provocation.
S/he might know of some counselling you can get or some people you could get to know. AND YOU'RE NOT CRAP, IT'S BLOODY HARD WORK Sorry for shouting

You could be me, I do honestly frequently feel like you do now. i think with the older DS it's maybe an age thing - which is an excuse bandied around a lot - but DS2 hs just turned 8 and is similar, but not as bad as DS1 who is 10.
Maybe you are a bit depressed?
Sorry i'm not much help really, trying to get DS2 to stop watching tv for 5 minutes so he actually get dressed

My dd is almost the same age as yours and all I can say is a dd that age alone is hard enough. I am really struggling too at the moment feeling really crap and useless and I am in a vicious circle the more crap I feel the worse the children behave the worse I react etc. My friend is being a great support but he has his own family to think of too so I hate burdening him.
Maybe we should support each other?

it was highness he said, not hugeness, though that fits too

we wer walking over the bridge to school and jumping off seemed very tempting but i want to be a granny.

i wouldn't hurt myself, i just want all this to stop

i am depressed and on ads, it is ds1 behaviour

i actually asked him what was wrong with him and did he like upsetting mummy so much

Nab you days sound like mine, Youopen your eyes in the morning and wait for the shit to hit the fan.
We are not the only ones at the momenthere
I think people on here are finally being honest about how hard it all is

Do you ever get a break? Is there a local nursery or children's centre where you could leave your youngest while the others are at school, even for just a couple of hours a week? If you can manage some time on your own, don't spend it on housework but put your feet up with a coffee and a magazine. Better still, go to a cafe.

Can your GP refer you to a support group?

Does your son behave badly at school too? What does his teacher say? Would you feel comfortable discussinb his home behaviour with her?

Sorry to ask so many questions. I found being a SAHM very difficult - it can be lonely and isolating, especially as my close friends live 100s of miles away and I rarely see them face to face - and I used to force myself to go to every mother and baby group I could find, just to make contact with other adults.

Hope things get better for you.

NAB I think you live near me..... do you fancy meeting up for a coffee and a chat or something?

I get about 2 hours free a day when DS2 sleeps but in that time I am having lunch and getting on with all the jobs. He is starting playschool in September which will be good for him and easier for me. All he seems to do is watch tv in the mornings.

DS1 is an angel at school. They referred us to HomeStart but they took months to come and pretty much said they couldn't give us what we needed so hubby told them not to bother with anything.

SPS - thank you. Not good company at the mo and wouldn't want to bring you down too.

NAB sweetheart im so sorry your having such a rough time.

I dont know how i do it, but if my DD is acting up i switch to what dp calls 'robot mode', unemotional, firm and resilient..i dont ask i order and it works(with my dd) i show no emotion and deal with it 'like a robot'..maybe its not the right way to go, but its a trick i began when i was on anti d's and also found them to be a pile of crap, i tried every type available but none helped me.
In the end i went to counselling(past probs as well as PND) and somehow(dont know how) managed to work through it with no drugs.

So sad that homestart couldnt help, accept any offer of help, you wont 'bring anyone down' you will feel so much better actually having a talk a cry a shout..honestly, so friend or counseller, i think thats what you need.

Does Dh know you feel like this? can he help out more?

As hard as it is to understand you children dont mean to upset you so much, theyre at those ages were they 'try it on' without fully realising their consequences, unfortunatly we have to be thick skinned enough to not let it get to us, but is does as thats not something they teach you at antenatal classes..i really hope you manage to get a break today and they ease up on you...can yo get them to park after school?, get them out in fresh air, take some junk food, theyll have fab time and may be a little more appreciative of their wonderful mummy?

My DH is amazing. The minute he walks in the door he is Dad and gets on with listening to them read, bathiong them, bed, etc etc.

There are times when I saw yes to them when they are expecting a no and they can't believe it. They tell me I am the best mum in the universe for making them a lovely tea and pudding and then half an hour later they are behaving badly I remind them what I have done next time they want to kick off but it has no affect.

A friend said something this morning and I know she thinks I expect to much and are too hard on them. I don't comment on her parenting so I wish she wouldn't infer things on me.