My daughter feels left out

[thatquirkyposter]

My only child daughter has just recently turned 6 but most of her school friends are 6.5 to almost 7 years olds. My daughter has many amazing qualities. She is bright, full of energy, kind, funny and silly. She however lacks resilience although she is so so much better than 1-2 years ago.

She has been coming home from school sometimes in tears that she feels excluded. According to her, her friends would not let her join in their play. She does not get to sit next to certain friends at lunch. She does not get picked for games.

I know I am only hearing one side of the story. I know perfectly well it could be one moment of slight and she takes it personally. I have seen her on play dates and at birthday parties and she seems genuinely happy with her friends. On parents evenings, her teacher had no concerns regarding her social skills.

Is this lack of resilience on her part and I do worry that plays a factor in developing friendships. I do admit she does not appear to have many friends.

I would go and have a quiet word with the teacher and ask her to keep an eye on your DD. If her friends are excluding her then that is hard for a 6yo to understand- I don't think it indicates a lack of resilience. The teacher will be used to dealing with friendship issues.

We talked about her social skills at the last parents evening and her teacher had no concerns. I stopped myself from asking her teacher to keep an eye on her. Firstly I feel it’s a lot to ask of her teacher who has 20 other children to pay attention too. And secondly I might come across like a ‘worried mum’ as her teacher literally said she had no concerns.