Brother hasn't come to meet my first baby?

[Dandelions25]

Posting again with a bit more info.

My brother hasn't made the effort to meet my first baby. She is now 3 months old.
We live in Spain, and he lives in uk.

My older sister lives in Australia and when she had my niece me all flew there to meet her, brother included.

Brother doesn't have any children, just a cold moany gf.

He has already been away for the weekend and has just booked a holiday away to Italy and talking of another trip somewhere but still no plans to visit us and meet his niece?
Feeling abit upset and disappointed.

Do you think it is because his cold/moany girlfriend doesn't want to visit you ? And he wants a holiday with her?

Why have you posted this twice?

Perhaps he doesn’t want to spend time with you because you’re rude about his partner?

The additional info doesn’t change it. He doesn't owe you a vist and not everyone is interested in babies.

My mother didn't meet dd1 until she was 7 months old my sister met her at 6 months old.
They couldn't afford the trip until then . Nothing to do with not caring.

Not everyone is interested in babies, OP

Maybe because it is clear you don't like his girlfriend?

Did he pay to go to Australia? If not then I imagine he went along simply because it was free.

Is it possible that your sister explicitly asked him to come and meet the baby while you haven’t so he’s waiting for an invitation ?

Has he offered congratulations and sent a gift?
How often do you normally see him ?
What is relationship with your sister like vs what you and are him are like ?

When you say “we” visited sister do you mean parents too? If they live in the UK, how often have they visited ? Do you have plans to visit the UK?

I’d be gutted if if my siblings didn’t come and visit my baby / me when I had children . It’s not about “owing” you a visit - it’s called being a brother . Have you said anything, eg a quiet word to your mum ? Is he normally in touch or are you not that close ? Even if his gf doesn’t want to come along , he should .

Have you invited him over? He might not want to overstep by inviting himself.

I think it’s different given you live in a different country.

In my experience siblings often don’t really care about babies, so don’t take it personally.

You aren’t entitled to a visit, and not everyone is naturally drawn to children. On top of that, you’ve been rude and don’t get along with his partner.

There may also be other things happening in his life—such as financial struggles—that prevent him from visiting.

He may not enjoy spending time with you ..as you might be challenging and difficult to get a long with. Perhaps is trying to protect his mental health and peace, by staying away.

Having a child isn’t automatically a cause for celebration for everyone. People have been having children since the beginning of time, and for many, it’s not something that demands a visit, especially if they’re dealing with personal or financial challenges.

He might also be cautious about how he's perceived—especially as a childless man—given how society often stereotypes and unfairly judges men in that situation. He may worry about how others could misinterpret his actions.

He has responsibilities and a life of his own. Just because he doesn’t have kids doesn’t mean he’s free or has spare time. Assuming that he does suggests you may be judging him for not having children, as if that somehow makes him more available.

He doesn’t owe you a visit—or even an explanation.

Celebrate your child for your own joy, but stop pressuring him about it. If you’re reposting this hoping for validation or a different answer, you’re likely to be disappointed.