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4.5 yo acts weird when I ask her about time at dad’s

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Roxietrees · 13/05/2025 21:40

My 4.5 yo DD splits her time equally between me and her dad. He has a new partner and DD spends a lot of time with them together. I like to hear about what she’s been up to, especially if I haven’t seen her for 4 days. But I rarely get anything out of her - which I’m pretty sure is very normal for her age. It’s the same when I pick her up from nursery- “what did you do today?” “Nothing” or “can’t remember” 🙄 to be expected though. But it’s the way she reacts when I ask her what she did at her dad’s that I find slightly strange (I’m probably overthinking it) but if I ask her if she had a good time (or anything to do with being at her dad’s) she goes “yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah” which I’ve noticed is a thing she does when she doesn’t want to talk about something. If I go to kiss her or touch her head or anything around this time she pulls away from me. It’s like she feels uncomfortable talking about it. She never offers any info about what she did ever. Am I overthinking or does she feel uncomfortable/unsettled about maybe the relationship between me & her dad? Could he be trying to alienate her from me? Things aren’t great atm, we’re going through court as he wants her more than half the time & is trying to paint me as an unfit mother (I’m not) but we’re always civil in front of DD. She may be picking up bad vibes between us though?

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BlunderMifflin · 13/05/2025 23:53

I’m afraid I don’t have any proper advice, except instead of asking what she did at her dad’s (or at nursery), ask her what her favourite thing was while she was there. What did she like best? I used to find this worked with my DD.

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