i've given in!

[notreal]

we only started this am under duress and he has so far done 3 wees in his pants and did'nt even realise for 2 of them that he was wet so back on the nappy has gone i really don't wanna tell my mum she already thinks i'm a failure of a mother for leaving it this long [he is 2.7]

YOu are not a failure, we have given in aswell, and funnily enough 2 weeks on she is saying more often that she wants a new nappy, will be following Seekers advice from the other thread and do it when she tells me too and not earlier.

thanx sophie... how old is your lo? tbh it has been my intention all along to be led by him but if you look at my other thread [what do you think] it was really spurned on by that but iknow my little man and he is not ready but feel very sad and angry by my mum for saying 'well if he is bright enough'

She is 2 and 4 months, have a friends DS who is over 3 and she only did it with him at nearly 3.

I also think that Mums put a fair amount of unwanted pressure on daughters when they are not doing things how they did. DD is also bright but just not ready yet.

if you only started this morning and 1 out of 3 pants were dry id say thats quite good!youre not a failure and its not up to your mum to say when your ds and yourself are ready!

Why don't you give it a few more days, we had done 5 with DD beofre we stopped, she showed no interest in the potty.

I've just done the same this weekend. I have given up completely. DD 1s 2.6 and did really well to strt with, but after a couple of weeks, she was having a wee ccident most days, at least once, and every poo has been in her knickers, every single one!! I feel like a failure too, just so sick of cleaning poo up, and she seems a lot happier with nappy on.

I know I always say this - but try not to think of it as something they need to learn. When they are ready they'll do it - you can start at, say, two and a half and it'll take weeks, there's be lots of washing, lots of stress, lots of wet carpets and you'll spend your life saying "Do you need a pee? Are you sure? Shall we just try?' If you leave it another 6 months, they say "Mummy, I don't want to wear nappies any more" and you say "OK, darling - here are some pants and there's the loo" No accidents, no hassle, sorted. You just have to hold your nerve when everybody thinks you should be doing something about it. Think of the wet carpets, smile sweetly at them and WAIT!

it's crapola scuse the pun but it really is a big issue to my mom last night when she was ranting talking to me she said she thought that we were all lazy and disgusting that we don't potty train younger now and that she is 'just astounded' by it all bet you all wish she was your mom she is my mom and i love her but she is abit fixed in her views ifyswim but on a brighter note little man happier now he is in a nappy roll on the sunshine

I totally agree with Seeker.

My DD trained herself at 3.1ish and it was a breeze .

at your mum. What has it got to do with her anyway??? Its your turn to be the mummy now and these days children are staying in nappies for much longer than 30 or so years ago!

notreal- i think its just view differing from generation to generation.before ds1 was born i was told to potty train dd before his birth .dd was one year and 5 days when ds1 was born!according to all the people who told me to train early we(our generation)leave it much to late.result was 8 month old baby piddeling everywhere!unhappy mummy and unhappy baby.

Also, I think that in earlier, pre-central heating, pre-tumble dryer and possibly even pre- washing machine days the earlier out of nappies the better.