Stressed out but am I overreacting?

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Can anyone offer some advice ?

My little boy just turned one.

Since I’ve had him I’ve lost a lot of friends - I suffered with postnatal depression extremely bad in the first few months and still have troubles with it now. They say I didn’t make effort with them I felt let down as id aired my struggles but didn’t feel supported. So now I’m no longer in the friendship circle.

So my sons birthday came and nothing …

On top of that I didn’t hear from my dad (his grandad) and I didn’t see my mum his nan either they both have something small (they’re separated) a week before. But nothing on his birthday. I just feel so sad for my baby. And I feel so mad and let down by my parents - do you think I’m overreacting? I just feel like it’s his birthday where’s the fuss ?

I’m sorry you’re struggling OP.

What is your relationship like with your parents generally? Do you see each other often normally, do you usually see each other for a fuss on birthdays? Because for me that makes a big difference to my answer.

My family are very close and so I’d be a bit hurt and also confused if my parents has done this because we see each other at least once every week, we chat daily, and we always make a fuss of birthdays, so this would be really out of ordinary for them and I’d be confused.

If my PIL did this though it would not surprise me one bit, we aren’t close and I don’t think we’ve seen them on our birthdays in years so I would be overreacting if I kicked off at them doing this as this is the usual.

I’m sorry OP, they sound awful but I’m guessing they aren’t otherwise loving engaged parents.

I’m sorry you are finding it difficult.

when you say you had something small the week before do you mean there was a party/get together the week before his birthday? If so, I wouldn’t necessarily expect them to be around for his actual birthday.

i invited my NCT group round for the first birthday.