Why does my toddler hate me

[StephanieOz]

I feel like I waited my whole life for my son, and he hates me. Since he was 6 months old and figured out who his dad was, it’s like a switch went off and he hates me. When he’s hurt, upset, tired or wants something it’s his father he wants. To the point that he hurt himself this morning and actively ran away from me crying and sat in the garage where his dad parks his truck to wait for him. Everytime I went near him he would scream and move away.
hes nearly 18 months now and it’s still like this. Where did I go wrong? I love him so much. Why does he hate me so much. I’ve only ever loved him

Toddlers are the most illogical bat shit crazy beings on this earth I promise you he doesn’t hate you. Just keep loving him and he will grow out of this phase 💐💐

They do this type of thing sometimes. It’s a phase. It might very suddenly change the other way. As pp says just keep loving him.

Honestly this was my daughter from 6 months too. It didnt change til i had our second baby when she was 3.5 when she suddenly decided actually i was great (not quite as good as daddy still but i can live with that!). Its really hurtful but all you can do is stay consistent and not let it affect how you interact with them! Good luck!

Bring contradictory and contrary little devils is in the toddler job description! He doesn’t hate you, you are the person he feels safe enough with to express those overwhelming and confusing emotions he experiences. He knows that your love is unconditional and that you are safe so he can push boundaries with you.

Just keep showing and telling him you love him. In a years time everything will probably look different once he can talk more and express his feelings.

Mine just wants the person who was furthest away when they hurt themselves. So if she trips up next to me she gives me the filthiest look like I pushed her then runs crying for daddy and vice versa if he was nearest

You’re taking this too personally (easy to do so though I know). Toddlers are little punks and do crazy stuff sometimes and it doesn’t mean they hate you. Give it time, everything is a phase.