Bedtime Struggles Since New Sibling

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Hi

Looking for advice from anyone who’s been through similar please. We welcomed our second little one just over 2 weeks ago (22m age gap) and after around 3/4 days our eldest has been beside herself at bedtime. She used to go down so well after milk, book and a sing song. Bedtime is now taking up towards 2 hours with lots of tears (from her and me). I have to change her sheets they’re that wet with tears.

She all of a sudden refused her bedtime milk (which I’m happy with as it was only a comfort thing) but she just wanted to nurse it. So we swapped it out for a comforter which worked for one night. She refuses to go to bed with her dad, whereas before she would happily take herself up to bed with either parent. We have no idea how to help her.

We are making sure she’s getting one on one time with each parent. We’re considering trying to get the baby down in her own bedroom before our toddlers bedtime, so she can see that we’re not sat with her when she goes to bed. How long can we expect this to last? Are we doing anything wrong?

Poor love and poor you..

I used to feed ds2 and put him in his cot, then do bedtime for ds1. Pick ds2 up again afterwards. But ds2 was calm.at that time in the evening.

After a few weeks, ds1 actually asked if ds2 could listen to the story, so it fixed itself by itself.

It's very normal for kids to get anxious or regress when a new sibling comes along. How would you feel if a lodger just moved themselves into your house one day without you agreeing? It is still very early days. Lots of cuddles and reassurance.