Feeling a bit bored with life after baby 2 and back at work, anyone else?

[butterandcream]

I’m 34, have 2 DC, DS5 and DD nearly 2.
DS started school in September and DD is at nursery the 4 days I work.
My Job is an office job, not particularly senior but not the bottom of the pile. I’ve been doing the same sort of work for 13 years now and tbh I’m not particularly enjoying it. I’m not sure I ever really enjoyed it but since having DD i basically see it as a pay check.

I’m just feeling so meh right now. Our weekends are spent keeping the kids busy and dealing with quite a lot of moaning from both DC, seeing family (who we seem to pretend everything is wonderful to, because no one wants to listen to a negative Nancy do they?), or kids parties or food shopping, parks, staying at home.

I’m just feeling a bit stuck in a rut. We’ve agreed I’ll continue working as I am for the next 2 years until DD starts school then I may look at working around school hours so it’s just a case or “getting through” it for now.
it just feels a bit shit, and whilst I’m very greatful for my beautiful kids and lovely husband, I can’t help but feel a bit bored… anyone else?

Hopeful bump x

Well I only have an 8 month old but had to go back at 6 months (I don't live in the UK sadly). I could not be less interested in my job. Everything makes me want to take a nap, it's soooo boring (I'm a solicitor).

I'm the higher earner so we would be fucked without my income.

I am doing the bare minimum.

Although judging by the work of my maternity leave covers, so is everyone else 🤣🤣🤣 As I get more senior, it is becoming more obvious how shit most people are at their corporate job.

I don't think this is strictly a parenting thing, more of a stage of life thing too.

Isn't this when men have midlife crises?

Yes I absolutely relate to this. 100%.

I'm in a similar boat too. I'm thinking about studying part time to give me (more)career options but I don't seem to have energy for anything beyond work amd the housework. The relentless housework.

Thanks for replying. Yes don’t even get me started on the house work, the constant tidying up after the kids, sticky hands, bums to wipe, nappies to change, baths to be done, nails to be cut, teeth to be brushed, then the mental task of working out what food to but at the shop every week to make some half decent meals…I could go on (sorry negative Nancy has now arrived!).

I get that this is all very normal adult life issues, but I feel like now I’ve had my kids (unlikely to have more), I’ve maybe hit that mid-life crisis point slightly early where I’m like is this how it is for the next few years…

Life with small kids is, in a way, boring. Routine, boring stuff, and they rely on you so much you don't really get a break.

I want a second baby ASAP because of this. DH thinks we should wait. And I'm like please let's get these early years over with sooner rather than later.

If my life becomes easy again, I won't be able to go back to this.

I had a 5 year gap. I wish I'd had them back to back!!

Exactly why I had a 16 month age gap! At just turned 2 and almost 3.5yrs now, we're in week 2 of potty training the 2yr old, so next holiday will just overnight nappies for both. And nappy bag is now just a few spares, wipes and snacks!

By this time next year we'll be out of the thick of it, and will be able to potter at my vegetable garden a lot more (get sometimes 20min before the clingy youngest wines "carry, carry", or they fight as they play together)

The main hard thing of a close age gap, oldest would've started swimming lessons, but can't as needs an adult in the water. No free weekend sessions at a suitable time, when partner is around. And the fighting over things, and now the toilet🙈