3 under 5? Pregnancy

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Ive just found out im pregnant, we have a just turned 3 & 4 year old.

having 2 under 2 KILLED me, to the point where I can’t remember it. Eldest has behavioural issues & youngest has still not slept through and suffers with eczema and allergies.

we are not well off, and we do not have any support unfortunately at all.

I am really unsure whether to continue with the pregnancy, I do not think it would be harder than 2 under 2, I do not think thats possible quite frankly for myself anyway, my eldest will be in school & when baby is born, 9 months later my youngest will move from nursery to school as well.

I always wanted 3, but I was going to do this later on in life as I am only 30.

I have only ever had very difficult children, in terms of sleep & if I knew this baby would be easier, I would keep but I knew with my 2 under 2 that It wouldn’t be the case, and it most certainly could not have been harder than it was.

I love my kids though, we are fully family only and I struggled with this but have come to accept it and enjoy it more so, its the fear of them in the future, and money, thank god for klarna and debt but still.

can anyone share their experiences? If you are well off, have support etc then it is likely not relatable to myself

Totally your choice OP as to whether to keep the pregnancy or not.

If I was younger / had more money / larger house etc I’d consider having three children…but a bit like you I don’t have those things, have an older child who has additional needs who hasn’t been easy raising so far, and now onto number 2 and done. I’m 35 to be fair so a bit ahead of you, but I wouldn’t do it to myself.

Thank you, im very upset that im in this situation, I did actually take the morning after pill, but I am on the weight loss jabs, they can reduce the effects.

logically, its always a no for me
otherwise, I cant get the thought of siblings, possibly 3 lads having fun together etc, and in 20 years a nice big table with all my children having dinner, and adding another sibling for them to support eachother, in a perfect world

My DH is one of 4. My FIL said kids no.3 and 4 were the easiest as 1) they knew what they were doing and 2) the older ones could entertain the younger ones to an extent. 4 and 5 year olds are quite different to a toddler so it may not be so horrible this time.

BUT I could never have 3 children. I just wouldn't cope. I don't have the resilience others seem to have. The newborn stage finished me.

IF you are super dead set on having 3 kids, then maybe have it now. I can't imagine ever wanting to go back to newborn stage if you wait too long.

Obviously totally up to you but I was in a similar position recently. I currently have a 4 and 3 year old and now a 2 month old. 2 under 2 was horrific. Absolutely awful! In comparison this is the easiest thing I’ve ever done (so far!).

we did keep lots of our baby things, went around marketplace and vinted. Luckily we have 3 girls so lots of sharing!

we did need to buy a bigger car though which was expensive and our 2 oldest now share a room x