Co-parenting / surrogacy first steps query

[duncanjh]

Hello all.
I'd appreciate some advice please! I am a straight, 50 year old man living in London. I am single, but want a child, and am starting out on that journey from a very low level of knowledge. Options that appear to be open to me include:

• co-parenting
• single parent surrogacy

Any views on the pros and cons of these options, and where to even start looking? Are there any other options? I have seen some co-parenting platforms (e.g. pollentree.com; coparents.co.uk) but I am not convinced they look very reliable / good. Thanks in advance!

Honestly? Unless you have a close friend who is interested in co-parenting a child with you, it’s going to be very difficult to find a tenable solution that isn’t utterly selfish and about your desire to be a parent rather than the child’s best interests.

Paying an impoverished woman to gestate a baby for you is also extremely unethical and gross, please disregard that as an option immediately if you care at all about the welfare of women and children.

Both options are terrible. Finding a stranger on line or renting a woman to human traffic a baby (and where are you going to get the egg anyway?).... Both shockingly bad ideas.

Why can't you become a parent the usual way?

Perhaps think about adopting an older child.
50 is quite old to have a baby. You’d be at least 60 by the time the child is 10 (obvs).

50? Assuming not clickbait...my exh was 48 when I had my youngest,she hates that he's so 'elderly' now! He's 65!
Please don't. And certainly don't do the rentawomb thing.

I assume this is a wind-up because obviously it’s wrong to try to purchase a human being.

The baby will probably have trauma from broken attatchment. You would have to afford the therapy they need and learn how to parent a child who is traumatised which will be more difficult than regular parenting.

Honestly, this is absolutely not in the best interests of any child. You’ll be in your 70’s before they’re out of university. Parenting a teenager in your 60’s is going to be a wild ride

And let’s not even consider the ethics of surrogacy 🙄. Women die giving birth, our bodies are not to be bought for your convenience.

Go to the baby shop, you can probably pick one up online for a good price.

I think what you're asking for is so incredibly niche, there's no real answer.

You'd be seeking a woman of fertile age to want to use sperm that's 50+ years old (and so naturally of low quality) to create and birth a child that she would then hand over to a man she's not dating or married to, for 50% of the child's life.

Not even touching the issue of commissioning a human and a woman's body.