Strange sleep pattern..anyone else? Help

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Dc number 3 is driving me mad with her night owl behaviour. Older 2 dc were bed at 7 up at 6 … nap in the day until about 4 years old

i parented the same with dc 3 but it soon became clear that this was hopless. Bed at 7 is pointless. Bed at 8 is pointless. I eventually get so tired that I put her in her room and tell her she needs to stay there … but she is often awake very late… it was 10.30 last night. She is 3!!!!

she does often sleep in the day ( when she doesn’t it is not so bad maybe asleep at 9) so you would think the answer is to stop her sleeping in the day. However nursery say it is too difficult to stop her and I agree. She just goes to sleep. Wherever she is and is so hard to wake. Obviously you can wake her but she just goes back to sleep and if you really force the issue just cries .. until she goes back to sleep…it is like she has an internal programme…

also the mornings are a night mare as she sleeps so late naturally… think 9.30/10… so in the week I have to wake her… dress her in her sleep… she is miserable because she is tired … I am typing this rather thank going in to wake her and start the battle….

anyone else had this? Tips?

How much day light is she getting in the evenings?
My daughter is sensitive to day light and this time of year we have to limit the amount of outside time she has after about 5 o'clock.
She's nearly 5 now but when she was under 4 weeks had to close all the curtains at half 5-6 to simulate sunset to get her to go to sleep.
She's like me and is a night owl and hard to wake up in the morning. My partner is the opposite.

Her clock is just off. I mean, she may just naturally be someone who sleeps late and is a night owl. I have a friend like this. She’s early 40s (no kids). She struggles to get up before 10/11am and is often up til 2/3am. She’s had a lot of trouble staying employed over the years because she simply can’t break the pattern of not getting up til nearly noon. 🤷🏻‍♀️

That said, your dd is 3. I’d be waking her by 8am at the absolute latest every day, sleepy or not and trying to re-set her body clock. She’s sleeping 11-12 hours a night. She’s just doing it at the wrong time.

Mine is like this. You need to stop the naps and wake her up 8am (or whatever time you choose) religiously. No lie ins at weekends! 😭

They say to keep adjusting things back by 15mins at a time. So ask the nursery to let her sleep (I think legally if a kid falls asleep they have to give them at least 30mins) but let’s say she falls asleep for 2h. Ask them to do 1.45, then 1.30 a couple days later, 1.15 and so on until you can ‘wean’ her off the naps. I just went cold turkey with my eldest and did some serious entertaining in the day to keep her asleep and eventually she went down 8-7

Thanks everyone… yes I think I need to force earlier get ups in the morning…. I tend to leave her sleeping to the very last minute as I am worried she doesn’t get enough sleep as she goes to bed too late… I think I also just need to accept her night owl ways. So so different to my other two who were and are early birds … they are 12 and 10 now are asleep before her 🤦‍♀️ Nearly every night!

Yes I think getting her up in the morning is the first step. You just need to cut back the amount of sleep she’s getting in the day to shift it in to the evening x