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Should I be freaked out, son exposed himself

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Jenny2337 · 01/05/2025 17:54

DS is 6, after school he and friends in class usually go down and play in a little forest area behind school while the mums chat. DS told me earlier that he had done a pee while down in the Forest infront of the other kids, both boys and girls and they were laughing. He said he needed to go and asked them to close their eyes but they opened them. He was laughing telling me but im quite annoyed that he did this and feel worried he showed his penis to girls in the class. Ive explained the pants rule many times to him but not sure if I should contact the other parents about this?

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Delphigirl · 01/05/2025 17:58

Oh for goodness sakes he is 6 not 16.

what is wrong with people? iQ seems to have dropped like a stone around here recently

Smartiepants79 · 01/05/2025 17:59

He’s 6 not 16.
Another firm word about not showing his privates to other people and a plan for what to do next time if he needs a wee in the same situation again.

Then chill out. 6 year olds show each other their bits is a fairly common developmental stage. If he’s still doing it in a few years time then start to worry.

paranoiaofpufflings · 01/05/2025 18:05

He was caught short so he asked them to close their eyes but they opened their eyes. He didn’t maliciously flash himself. No I would not bother raising it with the other parents.

However, he was laughing telling you the story and it’s not funny. Going to the toilet in public should only happen when you are really desperate, and even then, you should find somewhere discreet such as behind a tree or bush where it’s not possible for others to “open their eyes” and see. He needs to understand that, and understand it’s not funny.

Superscientist · 01/05/2025 19:34

In this situation I would say that if anything I'd be supporting your son about the children breaking his trust and looking at him in an exposed position. He's laughing it off but is that because the others are laughing.
I think a gentle word about finding appropriate places to go if caught short away from the other children where they can't observe him.
He should have found somewhere more excluded but I'd say the other children are in the wrong for peeping not the other way around.

Upinthetreetops · 01/05/2025 20:24

Your thread title is clickbait at its finest. And kind of ridiculous sounding when that's a much more serious issue. He did not expose him self, let's be clear of that to begin with.

I'd focus on having a word about appropriate places to go to the toilet. Does he make a habit of this and is he being told its OK? As PP said outdoor toileting should be when you're absolutely stuck. He was at school so should've gone back into the school in my opinion.
I would also tell him his intentions were correct by asking the others to look away and they should have respected his wishes. And finally that there was no need to laugh. We all have either a penis or vagina and it's totally normal, not funny or otherwise. But hughlight that people don't expect to see them in public as we keep them private.

FeatheredBreast · 01/05/2025 20:25

You are being ridiculous

NPET · 02/05/2025 14:08

He's 6! When I was in First School at that age I saw boys' "bits". I'd go so far as to say it's a good thing. It stops little boys thinking they have the ability to frighten little girls or that they have something more important than girls.
Besides, don't those 6 year old girls have brothers or male cousins?

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 02/05/2025 14:12

Has his dad (or other male adult) not shown him how to do an 'outside wee' by going behind a tree or bush? This might be a start.

user1471538275 · 02/05/2025 14:14

He didn't deliberately show his penis to anyone.

He went for a wild wee. During that it's possible someone may have glimpsed it. They will be okay.

There is no issue. Reinforce pants rule and that ideally you find a toilet where possible.

Job done.

BCBird · 02/05/2025 14:16

He was caught short. He asked them to close their eyes; they opened them. Next time tell him to.gind somewhere more suitable. He did not expose himself.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 02/05/2025 14:31

Once, when I was about 9, my parents had a party for my Dads 30th. Me, my brother, my 3 cousins, and a couple of children of family friends were all upstairs banished to a bedroom.

At one point, one of my cousins says "Look what I can do!" Pulls down his pajama trousers and starts 'helicoptering'. 30 seconds later there are 8 boys in a room all with their trousers round their ankles doing the same. And then my mother walks into the room to check we were asleep. To say she was horrified is an understatement.

Oddly enough, not one of us has turned out to be a sex offender.

He's 6 @Jenny2337 , not a pervert

Blueskies25 · 02/05/2025 14:36

Jenny2337 · 01/05/2025 17:54

DS is 6, after school he and friends in class usually go down and play in a little forest area behind school while the mums chat. DS told me earlier that he had done a pee while down in the Forest infront of the other kids, both boys and girls and they were laughing. He said he needed to go and asked them to close their eyes but they opened them. He was laughing telling me but im quite annoyed that he did this and feel worried he showed his penis to girls in the class. Ive explained the pants rule many times to him but not sure if I should contact the other parents about this?

He’s 6 and needed to go, he told them to close their eyes ( good) but they didn’t, what was he supposed to do

At least he wasn’t upset that they saw his willy

I think it was fine, he didn’t deliberately expose himself

My 6 yo nephew mooned me a few weeks ago and thought it was funny😂

Justmovehousethen · 02/05/2025 14:37

Seriously? JFC.

JohnofWessex · 02/05/2025 14:40

A woman I once worked with used to go and play in the park after school when she was the sort of age we are talking about.

She's a similar age to me so would be 'Mid 60's'

The kids - boys and girls would after an hour or so form a circle for a collective pee.

She didnt have a brother so the first boys bits she saw belonged to a well known British Pop Star!

NameChangedOfc · 02/05/2025 14:40

He's just a little boy 🙏

atamlin · 02/05/2025 14:43

Please reconsider your title wording. He didn’t expose himself.

LoremIpsumCici · 02/05/2025 14:48

He didn’t expose himself, he asked them for privacy and some of them violated his privacy. They’re all 6 so it’s not an issue for parents or school. I’d be telling him you can’t depend on people to give you privacy by asking them to close their eyes. You need to go behind a bush and put some sort of screening/barrier between them and you when doing an al fresco wee.

LoremIpsumCici · 02/05/2025 14:50

paranoiaofpufflings · 01/05/2025 18:05

He was caught short so he asked them to close their eyes but they opened their eyes. He didn’t maliciously flash himself. No I would not bother raising it with the other parents.

However, he was laughing telling you the story and it’s not funny. Going to the toilet in public should only happen when you are really desperate, and even then, you should find somewhere discreet such as behind a tree or bush where it’s not possible for others to “open their eyes” and see. He needs to understand that, and understand it’s not funny.

Edited

Many humans use humour to deflect discomfort and vulnerability. Not all laughter is ha ha funny laughter.

Mischance · 02/05/2025 14:56

It is unimaginable that a parent might worry about this. He did not expose himself - which implies a desire to gain sexual pleasure from the exposure - he just got caught short.

Please do not overreact - you will give the poor boy a complex!

Just chill.

When I was a little kid, boys were always having a pee at the park.

ItGhoul · 02/05/2025 15:33

Jeez, a six-year-old had a wee and his friends giggled about it. He's not Harvey Weinstein.

cestlavielife · 02/05/2025 15:34

He needed to wee
Many grown ups do this on side of road
He didn't drop his pants to wave it around for fun

ItGhoul · 02/05/2025 15:59

paranoiaofpufflings · 01/05/2025 18:05

He was caught short so he asked them to close their eyes but they opened their eyes. He didn’t maliciously flash himself. No I would not bother raising it with the other parents.

However, he was laughing telling you the story and it’s not funny. Going to the toilet in public should only happen when you are really desperate, and even then, you should find somewhere discreet such as behind a tree or bush where it’s not possible for others to “open their eyes” and see. He needs to understand that, and understand it’s not funny.

Edited

However, he was laughing telling you the story and it’s not funny

Oh come ON. He's six years old.

GeorgianaM · 02/05/2025 15:59

Please don't heap feelings of shame on your little boy and apply adult standards to his behaviour.

GildedRage · 02/05/2025 15:59

Pathetic. Kids and adults sometimes pee outdoors. His attempts to be discrete need work.

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