Four years ago, I moved to city with my husband as he was offered a job there which worked for the two of us at the time. The plan was never to stay here long term but to give us a steady income. His job is incredibly niche and mine isn’t so I have unlimited job opportunities. We are still here and have since had a child who is now two. I like the city but
Sadly I’ve had no luck making friends ( neither at work nor through attending groups with my little one) and it’s not through lack of trying. Neither of us have a social network nor family anywhere near. We have both been pretty nomadic individuals before we met and this was never an issue for me prior to starting a family / getting married etc.
I have always said that if I were to move anywhere else in the UK, I’d move back to be close to my family.
Since having our daughter, life has been a real struggle without any support network at all. I took a year of maternity leave and did this alone and now I work part time and look after my daughter the other days. I ahve wanted to move closer to my parents ( 300 miles away) for the last 2 years and husband agreed this would be good for us. The issue is that his job is so niche that finding one even remotely nearby is an issue and the opportunities across the country come up every 2-3 months.
We get by but do not earn a great deal between us. With me having to work part time because of limited childcare for two days a week, nursery fees for three days and a lack of job opportunities for him, we have become stuck in this situation that is not ideal for our family.
We do have significant savings for our future home and I have suggested we move to be closer to my parents without having jobs secured ( at this point in time, I feel this is necessary for my mental wellbeing). We have the opportunity to live in a family property short term rent free but my husband does not want to take the risk of moving without a job in place. The only solution aside from me staying here until he has a job close to my family ( who knows when that might be) is to go down without him.
The whole situation has put a massive strain on our relationship and I feel I have no control over my life all because of his incredibly niche career choice.
Anyone been in a similar situation ? :(