I need help. I’ve been separated from my ex partner for 4 years and in 2021 a police report went in against my ex partner for dv and cohesive abuse. Social sevices were involved but unfortunately went to my ex partner first before seeing myself and the children. The police women was disgusted with this and nothing was ever brought to a conviction. Over the last 4 years I’ve put up with verbal abuse threats his drug addiction which he denies along with his family. I have tried for the sake of my children whom are 9 and 12. Unfortunately since Christmas they have refused to go even me dropping them off and collecting them as he refused to. The children refuse to get out the car or when they have after 10 minutes are ringing to be picked up. He doesn’t pay maintenance and when I’ve involved child maintenance the threats and harassment start. Now It all came to a head Easter weekend and where he had been missing for 3 days. He sent a message with indications of harming himself. So I contacted the police after trying to reach his parents and getting nowhere as they blame me for his drug taking his behaviour etc. the police were more interested in me and his behaviour towards me and advised me to safeguard my children. The children don’t want to see or speak to him or his family. I was advised to tell him I was blocking him. What I got was a load of abuse blaming me for contacting the police over his threats. The police say there is not enough evidence for harassment as there is 2 way communication. Now my situation is the children don’t want to see or speak to him and his family. I’m concerned about his mental health and his addiction even though there is no way of proving it. He is threatening to call the local mash team and tell them all sorts that he is concerned about the children living with me. Because we live with my mum and dad because of the harassment and the fact I care for my dad. He makes accusations like my dad is an alcoholic and his children are not safe in a home with somebody with dementia( he hasn’t got any formal diagnosis). And he most certainly isn’t an alcoholic. Now I was advised by the local women’s centre 4 years ago to block him and let him take me to court and apply for a non molestation order. How easy is it to get an order for me. All I want in an ideal world is to be able to coparent and live a peaceful life (not that I do anything ). I’m just exhausted and don’t see an end and have another 8 years until my youngest is 16 and I don’t want another 8 years on top of the 4 I’ve already done I don’t want to wish my children’s childhoods away and live in constant flght or flight mode. Thank you for reading sorry for waffling any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated