Please read this without judging. And if you can’t help or no nice comments, please refrain from commenting because I am Autistic and extremely vulnerable right now.
I was in hospital February. My son’s dad wouldn’t bring my son to see me. So my friend insured my car and with dad’s permission (who put him in the car), brought my son. Later on that evening after my son was dropped off. My friend was arrested, unrelated to car or my son and it was a no further action. Police illegally searched through our messages and reported to social services my friend had been caring for my son. She hasn’t but I blocked friend as any police involvement I don’t want to know.
Social services called off no caller id but I missed the call as I was still in hospital. They called my sons dad and said to keep my son away from me and started the time frame for the child and family assessment. I picked my son up from his childcare as sons dad wouldn’t give son back. He then said it was fine to have him. Ironic son’s dad has no involvement normally then decides if I can have my son or not. I called social services daily for 2 weeks and no one from triage or duty would give me any information. No advice or support nothing.
Eventually 2 weeks later a student social worker got in contact. Didn’t ask for consent. Said they were going to speak to my son and come to visit. I asked the appropriate questions why is this happening I don’t get why it’s went to assessment stage. They said if I didn’t want to do it, it would go to a strategy and down child protection route. I didn’t want to go through the assessment as I was on child protection as a child, children services in my area are so bad and it’s so triggering for me. If I need help then fine, but based off the referral, a whole child and family assessment wasn’t warranted.
the student social worker never spoken to my sons dad. She also left. So the manager put it as a no further action and 7 days after the completion I got it was a no further action because they understood I blocked my friend now and had no contact. They knew that before the assessment. They found nothing from the assessment. I stated so many times I don’t want my sons dad getting a copy as his girlfriend will take pictures and send to her family to read over and send to her friends with all my personal information on it. They’re saying he has to have a copy. The social worker lied and said she didn’t say strategy meeting when I’ve got on texts they did threaten and bully me.
i was bullied into consenting to the assessment. Ideally I want it removed off the system full stop as it shouldn’t have happened in the first place.
if that can’t happen then it needs to be checked over as the student hasn’t done it properly by lying. Does my sons dad have to have a copy even though we won’t be safe it he does?
no one is helping me from children’s services. I don’t want him being sent a copy then getting a sorry after