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Mums of MN who have been good looking their whole life with kids who are most definitely NOT good looking, how does that make you feel?

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Luckylovee · 20/04/2025 22:26

Mums of MN who have been good looking their whole life with kids who are most definitely NOT good looking, how does that make you feel?

Obviously you still love them, but what thoughts or concerns do you have about your children’s appearance and how it may or may not affect their life?

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vodkaredbullgirl · 20/04/2025 22:31

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TropicofCapricorn · 20/04/2025 22:32

What an odd post...

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vodkaredbullgirl · 20/04/2025 22:33

TropicofCapricorn · 20/04/2025 22:32

What an odd post...

Yes it is.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 20/04/2025 22:33

Eh???

Veggielepsy · 20/04/2025 22:33

Why are you asking?

SilverButton · 20/04/2025 22:33

Are you in this situation OP? Tell us how you feel about it?

redcord · 20/04/2025 22:34

You first, OP

Uricon2 · 20/04/2025 22:34

God, this place has jumped the shark tonight.

Smallmercies · 20/04/2025 22:34

I pity them and secretly feed them extra chocolate as compensation. Plus I've shaved off my eyebrows to make myself uglier to match them.

cooldayslikethis · 20/04/2025 22:35

So your hot but you think your kid is a minger. Honestly I’m lost for words!

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 20/04/2025 22:36

This is niche

Teaseall · 20/04/2025 22:37

Surely, all children are good looking because by their very nature they are our future. They then grow into adults which messes things up a bit Smile

Solocatmum · 20/04/2025 22:40

People will judge you but it’s a legitimate thing to think about.

i’m not ugly (I hope) but definitely not attractive. My life, in particular friendships and love life, have been less easy than pretty friends.

I am quite relieved my daughter appears, so far, to be fairly pretty.

I think looks matter less for boys, and a gift at something can make up for plain looks. As can humour and charisma.

For girls, humour and charisma doesn’t get them as far: it’s the ultimate unsaid but prettiness helps (as you as a good looking person would have noted). But things are easier these days - good makeup makes a difference. Those who are gifted (at sport or music or whatever), academic or just less social may be less fussed. But even if girls are fussed, a lot can be done to “up the game” compared to 25 years ago.

Don't judge yourself for thinking it - plenty of people on here will care a great deal about whether their kids are clever. That’s luck of the genes as much being good looking.

saraclara · 20/04/2025 22:46

Teaseall · 20/04/2025 22:37

Surely, all children are good looking because by their very nature they are our future. They then grow into adults which messes things up a bit Smile

They're really not. You might think every child is kind of cute, but not every child is conventionally attractive, and some are very much not.

Scratchingaroundinthesameoldhole · 20/04/2025 22:48

WTF

saraclara · 20/04/2025 22:49

I'm plain. I was astonished, and yes, pleased, that my daughters were much more attractive and that they have remained so well into adulthood. Because I do think life is easier if you're relatively easy on the eye.

TwinklyMoose · 20/04/2025 22:49

I worried about that before I had kids but thankfully mine look like supermodels (in my opinion)

Roaringlions · 20/04/2025 22:57

I think most people think their children are beautiful even if objectively they aren't.

nottheplan · 21/04/2025 09:53

I'm sure there are a few people who would judge and have opinions but is it worth having those people in your life if they are so shallow? The children may not be pretty or good looking now but a lot of my friendship group weren't until we blossomed as young adults 😊

Everlore · 21/04/2025 11:39

Well, I happen to be the mum of the most beautiful baby ever so I can't really answer this!
Seriously though, I would hope that most mums think their children are the most beautiful people in the world so I think this question is pretty redundant.

Marmiteontoastgirlie · 21/04/2025 11:50

Solocatmum · 20/04/2025 22:40

People will judge you but it’s a legitimate thing to think about.

i’m not ugly (I hope) but definitely not attractive. My life, in particular friendships and love life, have been less easy than pretty friends.

I am quite relieved my daughter appears, so far, to be fairly pretty.

I think looks matter less for boys, and a gift at something can make up for plain looks. As can humour and charisma.

For girls, humour and charisma doesn’t get them as far: it’s the ultimate unsaid but prettiness helps (as you as a good looking person would have noted). But things are easier these days - good makeup makes a difference. Those who are gifted (at sport or music or whatever), academic or just less social may be less fussed. But even if girls are fussed, a lot can be done to “up the game” compared to 25 years ago.

Don't judge yourself for thinking it - plenty of people on here will care a great deal about whether their kids are clever. That’s luck of the genes as much being good looking.

Yes I feel like posters on here are being purposefully obtuse. Being conventionally attractive as a woman or tall and athletic as a man does convey advantages to you in life.

If you are a very good looking person you will have felt these acutely and I don’t think it’s totally insane of you to notice if your child might not have same advantages.

I’m sure Cindy Crawford is quietly pleased that her good looking genes have passed to her daughter!

If I was model material and my daughter was not then I would comfort myself with thinking about all the wonderful things she can do with her life that don’t require good looks and how I can cultivate her intelligence, humour, kindness, honesty, strength, curiosity for the world and how I can make her feel truly confident in herself, help her to have a great sense of style, ensure she loves herself and maximises all the brilliant things that make her unique rather than ever for one second pining for a prettier face.

lifemakeover · 21/04/2025 11:53

As I tell my beautiful boys all the time, I would never have had ugly children!! 😁

ScienceDragon · 21/04/2025 12:00

The only things I ever wanted to see in my children were intelligence and good character. Doesn't matter how attractive people are, if they are as dumb as dogshit. Unless of course, the future you are envisaging for your children is as arm candy.

pinkyredrose · 21/04/2025 12:02

Holy fuck! What kind of question is that!