So fed up of my fussy baby!

[Rach7291]

DD is 10 months and has been grumpy pretty much since shes been born. Shes so hard to please. She has about a 5 second attention span. She won’t sit and read books, play or spend any time alone. I’ve tried reading, singing, taking her outside but everything lasts 30 seconds and she’s back to whinging. I don’t know what to do. I’ve taken her to the Dr twice and everything is fine with her physically. Has anyone else got a baby like this or any tips on how to entertain her because i’m losing my mind. I’m almost at the point of walking away and leaving her with my partner which breaks my heart.

That's so tough when it's all day, some babies just don't like being baby's and when they can walk and have some agency cheer up a bit!

Does she like being pushed in the buggy? I spent hours with my outdoorsy baby who got bored easily at home, walking all over. Put a podcast in one ear so I could still hear him etc and had a break, and got some exercise 😅 also just included him in everything round the house, I got a toddler tower when he could stand unaided and walk a bit and give him bits of finger food to "chop" while I cooked, sometimes did the dishes then out clean water in and let hom "wash" plastic pots or his toy cars, he's always been a fomo baby and liked to he included. Made things take longer to get done but also some of my fondest memories now he's nearly 2.

@Imisscoffee2021She used to enjoy walks, i’d walk round for hours. Lately she lasts 15 mins then starts being grumpy again. I’ve tried taking her round the house while I do things but she doesn’t like that either. Honestly she just hates everything 🙃

Do you talk to her during the walks? If not, maybe she’ll be happy with continuous commentary, so at least you can give your arms a rest from holding her all the time.

OP I’m in the same boat. My LO is currently so difficult and I feel like I live from nap time to bedtime. She is eats all books and puts all toys in her mouth and can’t play independently, if she does it last for 5 seconds and then she whining until gets my attention. I’’m so sick of it, I wish I could read her a book and she could play independently for 5-10min so at least I can do something.
I have signed up for swimming, sensory classes and do coffee dates with mums otherwise I can’t take it being with her at home all day alone. You have my sympathy I hope this is just a phase that will pass.

Is there any likelihood that she is intolerant of dairy/caffeine if you are/were breastfeeding her? I would take wheat and dairy out of her diet and see if her mood improves.
There is a special milk for babies that have cmpa as obviously it’s ridiculous to take milk off a baby.

To second what someone else has said my son was also cmpa and a happier boy once we got it under control, but imagine you'd know by ten months. Is she a good eater of solids?

Or to put it another way, she’s uncomfortable and you need to work out in what way.

My little one was like this - had silent reflux. Although, was still not as happy as other babies when that went! Now, as a 9 year old, I have the happiest child going that everyone comments on! So with luck, some just get all grumpiness out of the way early 😊 x

@availablecupcakei talk to her constantly all day. It makes no difference 😔

@Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocusonshe has no signs of being intolerant to anything.

@Imisscoffee2021yeah she has no signs of cmpa. She loves her food, it is the only time shes not grumpy!

Is it worth taking her to a baby chiropractor to see if she needs some adjustments? She may be uncomfortable in some way that you don’t realise.

@marmiteloversuniteshe saw one when she was about 2 months old for a few months.

Sounds like my second.

if I'd had him first, he would have been an only it was that bad. Some babies struggle with being babies

@ElatedSlothsorry do you know anything about me or our situation? My child is very loved and cared for thank you.

What an awful thing to say to someone who is clearly having a crap time. I hope it makes you proud of yourself. Reported.

Vile. Hope you're proud of yourself kicking a mother when she's down. Babies are HARD WORK, Even the ones who are reasonably well behaved!

I hope you get this sorted @Rach7291 You sound like you're struggling! It will pass, and as a pp said, once she is walking and mixing with other kiddies she will calm down! Does she mix with other little ones at all? (Cousins/nursery/siblings?)

And you know this do you......?!

I felt this way with DC1. I think DC2 (8 months) has the potential to be just as needy but I don’t have the same amount of time I had with just one. So she just has to get on with it and entertain herself a lot of the times.

But I definitely use “ms Rachel” when she is really difficult which I never did with DC1 at the same age. This just gives a few minutes of distraction where you can do something else.

Also she plays with a lot of her older sisters toys like large Lego blocks/ magna tiles etc. If you have spoons and bowls etc this could be some form of entertainment for her?

On walks maybe give her some of those melty puffs to keep her quiet when she really kicks off.

It is really hard when they are so clingy, and honestly my eldest is still the same as a toddler!

Your posts are utterly vile. WTF? WHY are you doing this?

Dd1 was like this. She's now 8 and quite bright, I think as a baby she was just constantly bored. Nursery definitely helped her she seemed more stimulated once she's started