Hi,
My daughter is 5, she’s always been an “angry” child as such, she comes from a loving home, she’s never witnessed any dv or anything as such, it’s just me and her generally (she sees her dad too) so the only arguments she’s seen are from me shouting at her etc.. I’m struggling with how she goes from 0-100 angry, kicking off, meltdown in 1 second.
If she doesn’t get her own way or if I’m not responding to her right away or doing what she wants, she can just go from being fine to having a full on meltdown and I’d say over the last 7/8 months she’s started hitting me, scratching me, throwing stuff.
I’ve spoke to her SO much about how we don’t hurt mummy, how we don’t throw toys, I’ve tried the naughty step, you name it I’ve tried it. School do alot with them about managing emotions and what fills our cup up and down, she knows rather than getting angry at first she should take herself away from me and go and calm down, try breathing techniques such as rainbow breaths and candles.. she manages this well at school and her meltdowns at school have decreased a lot but at home the smallest thing can cause her to hit me.
I obviously don’t hit her back but the odd time ive tapped her bum she just laughs and says do it harder 🙃 I was a really angry child just like she is and my parents didn’t do much to try and decrease my anger, I don’t want her to grow up being so angry and I feel like she knows how to manage her anger to a point at school but at home it’s a different story.
It’s the hitting me I can’t deal with. Family members have spoke to her too and she keeps doing it. She wouldn’t dream of doing anything at school, shes never been in trouble for hitting etc! She knows it’s wrong as when we speak about it and what’s happened she says mummy I’m so sorry it was an accident , also if I walk away from her and say I’m not standing here for you to hurt mummy as that makes mummy sad she will just follow me and have a meltdown!
Thanks for reading if you’ve got this far 🫣