Co-parenting

[YourAquaCruiser]

Looking for advice from mums that have experienced co-parenting with emotionally abusive ex.

I have just separated with the farther of my son. Baby is only a month old and the last straw was a suicide threat from dad, an emotionally abuse rage and a physical outburst (punching wall and destroying wall fixtures) which baby almost got caught in the crossfire of.

He left voluntarily, leaving his keys. Now he is trying to get himself “well” (whatever that means) and win me back.

I’m done. #hehasneverhitmebut I don’t feel emotionally or physically safe around him (and don’t think I ever did but was naive and vulnerable when we met) but now we have baby to consider.

On the optimistic side - has anyone experienced similar with a partner/co-parent struggling and what did they do to manage parental responsibilities a feeling safe around them again.

On the pessimistic side - if he isn’t capable of change. What practical things can be done to protect myself and baby…

A few things to do first.

Have you put in a claim for CMS?

Hace you changed the locks? Don’t want to worry you but he could have copied the key.

Have you saved all of his messages? You might need them if he applies for a Child Arrangements Order.

And hace you reported any of his behaviour to the Police?

I’m not interested in CMS and don’t intend on changing the locks. :/

I’ve never reported his behaviour to the police. Only ever family to defuse any episodes. Because it’s mostly been emotional abuse and suicide threats.

I have that recent video.