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Looking for a handhold that DD will be ok at preschool

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Alittlebit9 · 07/04/2025 21:33

DD is 2.10, and started nursery when she was 9 months old. It was mostly ok - took a while to settle but when she did she was happy.

At 18 months she got mastoiditis, an infection of the bone behind her ear. It involved us being blue lighted to A&E, cannulas, IV antibiotics and a 5 day hospital stay. It was traumatic but very much so for DD who left with PTSD and had to stay under the play therapist for a while. Due to this, she became terrified of everything, especially nursery. We pulled her out as we hated seeing her so upset and moved her to a childminder where she has thrived in a smaller, home setting.

Fast forward another year and here we are. You’d never know she had been through it, she’s a very confident, happy little girl. However, she starts preschool next week (2 full days a week to begin with) and I am so scared she’s going to struggle. Has anyone had to pull from nursery and then their DC has been fine in a preschool setting? We did her visit last week and she seemed to enjoy it, but this will be her first time without me there.

I must sound mad as she goes to a childminder 2 days a week currently, but this feels like a whole new world.

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Butterflyfern · 07/04/2025 21:37

No actual experience, but is preschool at a different setting? Has she happily been to play groups/soft play etc since (ie areas with lots of other children around)?

If yes, I'd have a level of optimism that preschool will be fine. Honestly, try not to worry, and pass your worry onto DD. You're doing a great thing trying a more formal setting again now so she can ease in rather than wait for school

Alittlebit9 · 07/04/2025 21:43

@Butterflyfern yes, preschool is a completely different setting. This one is attached to the primary school and they do lots of visits over there to the library etc. We did lots of research, it’s an ofsted outstanding and the children seemed very happy there.

When I took her for the visit, the older girls took her hand and off they went - she seemed fine, if a little overwhelmed with the attention! So I’m hopeful, but that was just an hour with me floating in the background.

Thank you though. I think so much of this is my anxiety after what happened last time, and I really just want her to be happy there.

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