My son (12) wants to see his father less and i don't know how to go about it.
Ex and I split when he was 2 and he moved over an hour away. Since then he has had him on a saturday for one night. He refuses to see him in the week saying its too far to travel and if he has plans he will tell me in advance that he can't have him on those dates and then just doesnt see him until the following week.
My son is now in high school and is getting annoyed that he can't go and see his mates at the weekend as he is having to go there. He hates going there anyway as his dad never does anything with him, he has 2 younger children with new wife and the weekends usually revolve around them with my son in tow. He is quite controlling with him and uses threats as a way to make him behave. Also, he hates his new stepmum as she doesn't seem to try and bond with him at all. He got gifted £150 for Christmas and his dad allowed him half of it and then said he was putting the rest in a savings account. He did this with birthday money too. Son already has a savings account which money goes into monthly and I feel it is wrong to take money that others have gifted him away?!
I have asked ex to either see him in the week or go to alternate weekends and he has refused. I honestly think this is so he doesn't have to pay anymore maintenence as he has stated this in the past!
My son gets upset every week esepcially now the weather is getting nicer and he feels like he is missing out on fun with his friends..
what would you do?