I’m very close to my mum, we ring each other every day. I only live 30 mins drive away from her. But she hates that fact and moans every time she has to drive to my house, even though it’s been two years. I desperately wanted her around when my son was born, she did her best. But she still works full time and now I’m back to work, my son goes to my mother in laws. Over time, I’ve become so comfortable with my in laws and lean on them so much. I feel like we’re involved with each others lives more and that I can relax around them and sadly don’t feel the same around my mum anymore because we see each other briefly once a week if that. She’s very busy. But does make the effort to call me most days. Why does this upset me so much? I can’t talk to her about it because she’s quite defensive and she’s adamant she will not change the way she lives, which is fair enough. But I’m worried time is going too fast and she’s missing out.