Anyone else said goodbye to their kids for first week of Easter holidays?

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Dd7 went today for first week of Easter holidays. I'll see her next Friday. We've never been apart that long. She was in tears as she didn't want to go but of course I encouraged her and she did. I miss her but I'm OK. Just getting on with things.

Doesn't help her Dad is an abuser and already he's being a prick.. example being there's an event tomorrow I've asked if he could bring her to which he knew I'd be at also (think dancing competition).. he's now suddenly taken issue with me being there and is threatening not to bring her...

I've a lifetime of this.

Anyone else in a similar position?

I actually don’t agree. A few posters have said along the lines of he won’t form his own good habits etc if you don’t allow him to take her alone/if you want to turn up to 95% of events. This wouldn’t even remotely be an issue if the dad organised his own things to do with his own child. The OP isn’t asking to turn up to things he’s planned - she’s wanting to turn up to what she organises and pays for. It’s not unreasonable or petty.

That said, the advice on the thread is entirely correct - she has to back down and let him take their child without her. I should have been clearer that I’m not disputing that. I just find the low expectations of shit fathers depressing and then insinuating the OP is the one with the problem/bring difficult just isn’t fair.

It’s a shit situation for you OP. You have to let him take her alone, and keep doing the best by your child because he clearly won’t be.

This absolutely OP. The ingrained misogyny is shocking. He’s the one preventing the child having her mum there and the mum from seeing and supporting her child. It’s abusive and controlling