Mum guilt- Holiday

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Our friends have booked for me & my husband to have 2 nights away next week, which is lovely but I have so much mum guilt I want to cancel. I have a 2 year old girl & 10 month old boy. I’m not worried about leaving my 2 year old as she loves her nan & is used to us having the odd night away. But I’ve never left my 10 month old. He’s definitely more clingy than my daughter & is a definite mummy’s boy. I just feel so guilty I’m thinking of cancelling. Has anyone been away from their little one for 2 nights & it be ok when you got back? I don’t know why I just sit here thinking that he will be upset missing me the whole time I’m away. Or am I just being ott. I do definitely need a break & it would be lovely but I don’t know how to switch off the mum guilt for 2 nights. This is such a 1st world problem I know lol, I’m just up thinking about it

That is a very strange thing for your friends to do!

Are you saying this was a surprise or was it booked a long time ago and you thought you’d be fine leaving your 10 month old?

I’m coming across as snarky but I’m not really, I’m genuinely a bit puzzled as to how this arose, particularly as you have a two year old so this isn’t your first rodeo.

If they booked as a surprise then ideally you would have immediately spoken up to say how kind it was of them but unfortunately you can’t leave your youngest yet. If you agreed but are now regretting it I suppose you have to weigh up how distressed your 10 month old is likely to be; he has to come first. If you decide you can’t leave your youngest I’d encourage my husband to go along without you. Will the friends be there? Is it a group thing? Is that why the baby can’t go with you?

A bit more information would be helpful.

Yes, it will be alright. It may not be plain sailing for the GP but your children won’t be scarred long term. And you need a break. You need to remember to be you, and ‘you’ collectively, not just Mum and Dad

I wouldn't have done it with my 10mo unless he's used to staying and grandmas - if he's not then why don't you ask hotel if you can push forwards 6 month

Can you ask granny for a one night test this week?

I left my 9mo for 5 nights to go to New York, he’s 27 now never scarred him, plus my mother was delighted as he took his first steps with her - I wasn’t scarred either