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How to ensure my 11 year old isn’t spoilt ?!

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Windlepop · 30/03/2025 23:11

How to ensure my 11 year old isn’t spoilt ?!

My daughter has just turn eleven and since around 10.5 years she started comparing what she has to others and falling short…

Others have dog, ponies even! Fancy holidays abroad, phones, laptops, designer clothes…. And so on!

She does not go without. She doesn’t have fancy holidays but she has a lovely bedroom, plenty of clothes, loving parents, UK holidays with the odd one abroad, two cats, smallish house in a lovely area, an iPad and phone that used to belong to me.

She is very well looked after in other ways but we also try not to spoil her, however, it seems our efforts are in vain!

I’m worried that because she is so focussed on what others have that she will never be happy. I don’t know how to instil a sense of appreciation in her that’s innate and from her rather than me telling her to feel it.

I’m worried about the teen years to come and her attitude getting worse.

What can I do now to avoid this?

Ps. She’s fine when she’s not having things shown off to her by her friends, this is what makes her jealous and then act in act ungrateful

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mondaytosunday · 30/03/2025 23:22

dhrs old enough to understand that their are people who have more and people who have less. So some of her classmates have things she doesn’t . That’s always going to be the way - I’m sure she has things others don’t, and she may need reminding of this fact.

TillyannaB · 30/03/2025 23:23

Has she just started doing this or has there always been an element of it? For example when younger did she ask for or find some toys because her friends had them?

she sounds lucky with what she has Wink

Nosaucelikemintsauce · 30/03/2025 23:24

Encourage her to do things for people who have LESS than her... Let her choose items fo a food bank, donate her used clothes to a charity shop or refuge...

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