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Partners ex

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Annie1234k · 29/03/2025 22:39

My partners ex approached our front door today unannounced that she was coming - as we couldn’t take my partners (her son) to football she came to take him but we weren’t aware she was doing this, has a we have a ring doorbell we could see her approaching and she had her phone up and looked as if she was recording a video, No adult made conversation with her as the son answered the door anyway, once he answered and told him she was going to take him too football he closed the door and looked as if she stopped recording on her phone , Strange I know but do you think this should be addressed and in what way has she could just deny

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Flopsythebunny · 30/03/2025 04:50

What's the problem. His father couldn't take him so his mother stepped up

butterfly1234 · 30/03/2025 05:09

I'm not sure what the problem is... is it that it looked like she was recording?Could she have an issue with being recorded on your Ring doorbell, and so she did the same?

Never2many · 30/03/2025 05:17

So she came and took her son to football because his father couldn’t. And?

As for if she’s recording, well, if you’re going to be recording her then that’s fair game IMO. Does your partner usually give her a hard time if she comes over.

As for the “came over unannounced,” her child is currently there. And his father isn’t stepping up and taking him to the football, and so she’s doing so.

DenholmElliot11 · 30/03/2025 06:08

Lol, everyone spying and filming everyone else. When did we get to this point?

She just took him to football thats all.

Foxmumoftwo · 30/03/2025 06:21

If she was recording it could just be for her safety in a sense. So that Noone can say she did this or said that and just to show she showed up to take her son to football. Recording can be a safeguard if anything goes awry.

Never2many · 30/03/2025 06:38

I’d be interested to hear the ex’s take on this.

How many threads do we get from posters whose ex husbands/partners are abusive, and where it’s suggested they record the interactions as evidence/for their safety etc.

If the ex was recording I imagine there’s more to this that the OP isn’t saying here.

Theunamedcat · 30/03/2025 06:46

IF she was recording she was doing it for a reason

lunar1 · 30/03/2025 06:49

Why didn’t your husband just answer the door?

SemperIdem · 30/03/2025 06:53

Well the recording aspect sounds odd, to me. Ring doorbells and cctv are incredibly commonplace, it isn’t normal to “record back” that is very much tinfoil hat brigade behaviour.

However, I assume there is a bit insignificant back story here that would clarify if she is indeed a member of the tinfoil hat types or there was a valid reason for it..

BlondiePortz · 30/03/2025 06:56

So the child arranged for their mum to take them to football? If so what is problem

Tracking or spying on people is creepy no matter how people justify it

winter8090 · 30/03/2025 07:04

Has there been a history of confrontation?

mamajong · 30/03/2025 07:25

How old is the child? Presumably they asked her to go or how else would she know your DH wasn't doing it? I don't know why you guys weren't doing it but it frustrates the hell out of my when ex doesn't take kids to their sports events and makes other plans, because it's important to the DC to go regularly. If you were home, why wasn't your DH taking him out of interest?

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