What age should different sex cousins stop sharing a room at sleepovers?

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At what age do you think cousins should stop sharing a room for sleepovers if they’re the opposite sex?

My nephew is really loving with my DD’s, he’s a very sweet boy. He loves to hug and kiss them, he’s 2 and 4 years older than them. What’s currently very adorable has also made me think that as they get older it will hit a point where similar behaviour wouldn’t be appropriate, which led me to the sleepover question.

Would love to hear from others how they decided what age they drew that line.

EDITED BY MNHQ - OP originally wrote DSs when she meant DDs so we fixed it for her

Surely your nephew and your sons are the same sex?

Do you mean your DDs?

I think when they start hitting puberty/becoming more aware of themselves they just don’t want to share rooms or have people see them changing anymore. 10/11ish onwards.

Confused about the mix but nonetheless, in my experience the sleepovers stopped as we got older so there wasn't a need to worry about this. I don't think I'd have felt uncomfortable sharing a room with my male cousin though.

Sorry yes I meant DD’s!!

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We haven’t had this conundrum as we don’t have sleepovers with cousins as they live near, but we have boys 12 & 13 & a girl cousin of 13 & I’d offer her her own bed (boys on the floor or she’s on the floor) or the spare room & think nothing of the answer she gave.

Probably by around 10 or earlier if they felt uncomfortable / were early developers. That said, my mixed sex DCs are aged 12-15 and do share a room with their mixed sex cousins aged 9-16 when all kids are sleeping together (e.g at Grandma’s they all take a sleeping bag and sleep in the dining room as she doesn’t have enough spare rooms). Each child changes privately in the bathroom. I wouldn’t allow my DD to share with their male cousin or my DS to share with their female cousin if it was just two of them in the room though.

Defo by 9 for same sex too trust me...

By 10 but if he is growing up on the early side 8 onwards or anytime your DDs object or any of the adults don't like the set up.

I think it's the sort of thing we'd have just known when the time was right, but looking back probably ~9/10

Thank you everyone this is really useful to read, also good to know it’s not unusual to be thinking there will be a time that we’d start splitting them