So to set the scene my in-laws do my head in for various reasons but I bite my tongue and I am respectful. I try to speak to my husband but he just ignores me or won’t ever say anything to them. They always say passive aggressive things and it just drives me insane.
Neither of them work and haven’t for over 20 years now. They volunteer at charities to keep them self busy and there around 65 now. Our children are 4 and we rarely ask them to help out because it’s not worth the hassle. They have helped out in the past but we get what time are you going at, when will you be back but it’s more of a pressure questions like we don’t want to babysit longer than we have to. Now we just get messages like ‘I hope we are seeing the children this weekend’ where they expect us to bring them to them but never want to help or offer any support so we can have a break.
My mother who is the same age is absolutely a god send. She still works full time and of an evening too but she’s so helpful she offers to babysit all the time, she stays over once a week to help with my kids when I need to go to the office. It’s honestly like night and day.
We are looking to move soon probably out of town and my MIL is freaking out.. not sure why as she barely sees the kids anyway. Also I just found out I am pregnant again and she has been harassing me to ask if she can tell her friend I am pregnant even though I am nervous as I have had lots of miscarriages in the past. It’s like she loves to show off about the grandchildren but doesn’t want the hassle of helping out.
anyway what should I do? Should I say something or just leave it to my husband?