School run

[BlueBurys]

I never get involved with anyone from my kids school, I’ve always kept to myself. I mean if anyone speaks to me I will be polite and respectful and say hello etc but I don’t have school mum friends, or anyone I chat to regularly.

So a while back a mum approached me and asked me about something. She asked me some questions and seemed to want advice on her child situation as my child was in a similar situation. I advised her on some stuff. She would often chat when we passed in the morning and vice versa. Anyway one day she was by the school gates and I said hello and she just completely ignored me. I was a bit confused as nothing had happened. She definitely heard and it was only me there and her and the kids but she kept her back to me so I was like thinking o..k.

Ever since then she’s never spoken to me since and ignores me when she sees me obviously I didn’t say hello again myself after that time. Has anyone had this kind of thing happen? I don’t really care tbh as in I’m not bothered that she doesn’t want to speak to me. I’m just confused as it was so random and often you think have I upset someone or something even though nothing actually happened, has anyone has this happen before?

Yes. I think there was a thread the other day about people who ignore people they know in the street. I don't get it myself. But it's probably nothing about you. Some people just do this, weird though it is.

Thank you, I didn’t see that thread. I’m kind of annoyed with myself for even giving her information as now I feel like she just approached me to be nosey!

It’s so strange I don’t understand why mums are like this - maybe it’s just British culture ? I have never experienced it until having children however. I got blanked by a mum about 2 yrs ago who previously went above and beyond to talk to me her husband also. He has moved his son away from
mine while waiting to go into activities…. I am a normal reasonable person so deffo a them problem! Never any bust up or issue between the children. I try not to engage at all.

Just speaking generally as someone said about people not saying hello to people in the street; I don't say hello to everyone I know in the playground as I'd be saying hello to loads of people like "hello, hello, hello, hello, hello, hello". It would be weird. It would feel like going into work and touring everyone's desk saying hello. If I catch someone's eye I might say hi or at the very least smile at them, but otherwise not really. I also say hi if I see someone I know in the street, but just not the playground.

Anyway, if her back was to you when you said hi, is there any chance she didn't know you were talking to her? I know you said you were the only ones there, but if she was looking away, is there a chance she didn't know that?

Has your child been unkind/hurt her child?

She definitely heard as our kids started speaking but she kept her back to me the while time there’s no mistaking that she heard..

No they haven’t 😒 not even in the same class or year

Maybe she's just taken a notion not to like you then op. I'm sure that's her loss and not something you need to worry about.

Her child is older so no that isn’t the reason they are not in the same year and don’t have same playground she approached me for something specific but don’t want to go into too much detail as outing