Hello I am a mum to a nine year old girl and just after some insight please. It is going to be a long one, I've never spoke to anyone regarding this apart from obviously my partner but just after seeing what people think.
My daughter is nine years old she is beautiful, popular in school, polite, does well in school, can be extremely outgoing with the right people, abit shy with people she doesn't no. But overall she is a happy girl.
We give her everything she needs, she has never gone without however we only spoil her on Xmas/birthdays/occasions.
We have always noticed her little quirks and behavior but over the years it is getting worse.
She is so clumsy, un-coordinated and have never excelled in anything. She has been doing boxing, dance and gymnastics since she was about three, and it's like every lesson is her first time. She stares into space when the teacher is explaining stuff to her, she is always behind in the dancing and her gymnastics she can barley do a cartwheel properly and she has been going to all of this since she was three!! She had done loads of other clubs, swimming, netball, football, choir, basketball and she can't do any of it. She just clambers around totally spaced out, we've asked her if she wants to stop numerous times and she doesn't. I was nearly crying in her boxing lesson today because she is like a deer in headlights, just sticks to the floor, we used to joke she has my genetics. But it's so much worse than that, she is like she has never done any of it before. And is just so weak in everything she does. We have asked her if she doesn't enjoy it, if she wants to stop and she loves it all!
She is extremely loud! At home she is non stop, she doesn't stop talking, I can say to her give me one minute and she will act like she has not heard me and carry on talking. She interrupts us constantly, we have always told her not to do this to people as it's rude. But it's like she just doesn't hear us talking and just starts talking over us.
When we're in shopping centers she is singing really loud, screaming her words, dancing, flying around.
She is constantly looking for food she will have a big dinner and then go to the fridge and ask for more food! She eats ALOT!! But is skinny!
She cannot follow instructions, I have spent the last hour making bracelets with her and then told her it's time for bed. Brush your teeth, wash your faces get pjs on and she just stares blankly. I asked her to repeat what I'd just said and she couldn't remember. Its all the time, with everything, I'll ask her a question and she is just zoned out like she doesn't hear me.
I have to explain stuff to her in real detail otherwise she doesn't get it, she doesn't understand sarcasm a lot of the time.
She takes things so literal. As an example, If I say oh I might Bob to Nannie's in abit, she takes it as we are going and there's no changing that. And then has a melt down when I say oh no I've changed my mind.
She was meant to go to after school club today but our plans changed so she diddnt go, que a massive over reaction.
I have to tell her to something like 5 times, and it's only when I shout she actually listens.
Honestly she is mentally draining me, I love her so much, and everything I do in life is for her and her future. She has lots of friends, cousins, in school she is an angel. Just abit chatty and can get into agreements. My point being at school she is a normal girl, and home it's like we're on 10000mile run all day everyday with her.
I am honestly feeling so deflated, she just doesn't get anything. It's like her Brain doesn't take anything in that anyone tells her.
She said things don't go In her Brain properly but has never been a problem at school.
It's like taking to a brick wall!
The mornings are the worst, it used to be her socks. If they weren't lined up properly on her toes she would have a melt down. But since we sorted some better socks she is okay. But it's her hair, she won't keep still while I do it. But it has to be perfectly spaced, perfect like, and mirrored exactly the same, no hairs out of place otherwise she has a fit.
She has hit me and her dad a few times when she gets to emotional.
The amount of blow ups we have had over even clothes because she refuses to put certain clothes on because their itchy, to tight, the collor is wrong. She used to walk around with her head sticking out because her school collor would itch her neck. When it's all just normal clothes. I get it if we were sticking her in skin tight jeans as I know we all have things were uncomfortable with but it's all just to much!
She can be very hurtful with her words, I'll ask my partner does my hair look okay and she will say no it looks awful and tries to fix it.
I'm saying all of her problems but she truely is such a beautiful little girl, she can be so kind, she loves cuddles and she tells me everything! She is my best friend in many respects but I've made it clear in her mum first. She's been called the mum of her friend groups as she looks after everyone. We go the cinames, walks, she has new clothes all the time, she wants for nothing literally!
She really is a sweetheart but i feel like these little bits of just killing us and there just getting worse. Even her hygine, I made her do her face and teeth three times yesturday and still had to go and sort it myself. As she Doesn't like the feel of the toothbrush or the taste of toothpaste. She will argue with me that she doesn't have dirt on her face when I have a mirror in her face literally pointing to the dirt!! This goes for many things she will argue with me that the sky is not blue when it is!!!
This all goes to her dad too not just me! She is just really hard work and it's getting so much worse! Please is this normal???