Honestly, I’m just despairing with my toddler at the moment

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I feel like it’s constant whinges and tantrums, I know it’s a phase but it does feel like we’re on the more extreme end of it.

Getting her into the car seat is just awful. Once she’s in she screams and screams, sometimes stops for a moment and then something else will set her off like the song will change or something … I’m worried I’m going to crash one day; it’s so distracting.

It feels like it’s non stop. I feel rotten saying it as I do love her of course but I’m really not enjoying her at the moment.

I feel you OP. We had a (seemingly endless) phase with 2 year old DD with her screaming or whining at everything and everyone. Then suddenly in the last couple of weeks I’ve realised how much easier she’d become and it’s so much more enjoyable. This might not last but yeah, it’s always a phase. Sending strength!

Hard relate! Mine is 2.5 and omg the whining and tantruming. It's like constantly walking on egg shells expecting them to kick off at any moment. So over it, work feels like a break! I get they are having a hard time, new feelings etc but my goodness just eat your meal or have your nappy changed without the fuss just once!

Oh glad it isn’t just me and yes to walking on egg shells.

I picked her up after nursery and she was all happy to see me and then kicked off when I had to put her in the car seat, screamed all the way home, played intermittently with toys but tantrums abound … just so much. I get that it’s frustrating when she can’t get her doll in the pram / can’t reach the toy she wants / finishes her milk and wants more … but jeez, it’s so so draining.

she was a lovely gentle baby too

Another one relating OP. My DD is 2 years 4 months and the tantrums started at 18 months but have got much worse. She's also making crazy unreasonable demands e.g. demanding chocolate, new toys etc. We all know what we should do- empathise with feelings, hold firmly to boundaries etc - but that doesn't change it just feeling utterly exhausting and shit.

You're not alone and I really hope it passes soon for you!

Definitely not alone here! Very much a shock after being such an easy going baby. But we went through it wiith her big sister and got to the other side so it really does pass! So hard at the time though.