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Do I respond

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FlowerFlowerFlower · 16/03/2025 21:51

Just looking for a bit of advice, my ex hasn’t had contact with our children in a couple of years (his choice), he didn’t contact at Xmas or birthdays, no presents, no maintenance. If he emails me asking how they are (but no intention to see them) do I have to respond? I have done in the past but he usually doesn’t respond again until another year later asking how they are. Part of me feels like if he isn’t seeing them he loses his rights to know how they are and it obviously makes him feel better and able to carry on with his life knowing they are “fine” but at the same time should I let him know how they are so he can sleep easier at night knowing they are being taken care of? As I said he never usually responds after it’s just a bit of a tick box.

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Hadalifeonce · 17/03/2025 01:56

No, you don't have to respond. You can block him if you like, then you won't have to think about when he might deign to enquire about his children.

Lurkingandlearning · 17/03/2025 07:24

I suppose the only reason to respond is that you will be able to truthfully tell your children that you kept communication channels open once they are old enough to start asking questions about him.

soarklyknobs · 17/03/2025 07:43

Why not say “The kids are sad that they don’t have a committed father in their life.”

And leave it at that.

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