Hello,
I'm worried that my 13 yr old son's girlfriend might be emotionally manipulative. she says he's the only thing that makes her happy, only he understands her, she could never leave him etc. she's self-harming but has told several of her friends that she is. she also does things like won't eat or drink enough and so feels ill or faint. She also doesn't take her medication. It then becomes his job to make sure that she's looking after herself. She says that her parents are mean to her. he spends a lot of his time worrying about her, going to meet her and taking food or water because she hasn't been eating or drinking. I presume she's trying to get attention from her parents but I have no idea
I've told the school about the self-harm and the parents have been told and I think the school is providing support but I don't know for sure. i discussed why i had to tell the school with DS and he was fien with it, kind of relieved, i think. i said that this was one for mental health professionals to deal with.
i'm worried that my DS is taking on far too much with her and that when the relationship ends, her behaviour will become even more extreme and damaging. they have the same friendship group. i'm trying to support him but i really have no idea what i'm doing.
how can i support him and make sure that this relationship isn't damaging him?