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Ex won’t let me move

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Feelingtrapped100 · 06/03/2025 20:26

I Left my abusive ex years ago, this prompted an assault where he had stalked and waited for me and I was convinced I was going to die. I was bullied into not going to court but he was convicted.
contact with his child was sporadic originally, a few years later he sees his child 3 weekends out of 4. He has done other awful things to us but I have little evidence and didn’t report.
Years later I have moved on and have a boyfriend of 3 years that lives miles away. He lives in a place that I have always wanted to live and we would love to buy a place there together. I have wanted to leave my home town forever and the perfect opportunity would be during the transition to secondary school. I would only do this if my child was happy to which he is. I desperately want to get away from here for a fresh start.
I finally mentioned my thoughts to my ex who exploded, informed everyone he could and threatened court and prohibited steps order.
I feel like he has held me back so much already and the move could potentially mean much better prospects, finally owning a house and being happy and independent. I currently rent a relatives property.

sorry this is so long, I just want to know if I have any hope at all of this going my way and I don’t want to stop my son seeing his dad. I just can’t believe that one parent can sacrifice so much and go through so much at the hands of the other and it have no bearing on a custody hearing (which is what it is increasingly seeming like). I have had some free legal advice. TIA

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Nat6999 · 07/03/2025 05:52

When you say miles away, how far? My exh tried to stop me & ds moving 25 miles away to live with my partner, it was less than 30 minutes drive, if I had moved to the other side of my home city it could have taken longer with traffic. I kept ds in the same school as I was commuting for work & dropped him off on the way to work & picked up on my way home, it never affected him seeing his dad as he picked up from school & I drove to collect him. The Judge practically laughed him out of court when it was brought up as otherwise we would have been sofa surfing at my parents while he refused to move out of my 3 bedroom house.

Theunamedcat · 07/03/2025 06:09

How will you facilitate contact with him this will be what the court wants to know

Meadowfinch · 07/03/2025 06:16

He can't stop you as long as you can facilitate contact for your shared child.

What does DC think? Has he/she met your new partner? Is he/she happy to move too? If DC is 11 it won't be too long before they can travel on a train alone so look at train routes.

Feelingtrapped100 · 07/03/2025 07:52

Unfortunately, it is about 150 miles away. DC would be happy to move. And I would look in to train and transport to try and make it doable for everyone involved.

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